Help with the proposal didn't work with BM :(
She just wants SO to take her every other weekend so she can have free time, she wants SD all the time but not when she wants to party. She is going to cancel mediation and take it to court, bring it moron.
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Then she needs to front up
Then she needs to front up and tell the judge she needs 'free time'. This is when SO says he is willing to take his DD 24/7 because parents do not get time off being parents. He needs to make this a "I am in for the longhaul" battle. Let her front up and tell the judge about the need for 'free time'.
She won't be up front. She
She won't be up front. She keeps saying her proposed every other weekend is "more consistant for SD, blahblahblah".
mhmm so is 50/50 retard.
She keeps trying to say that SO is just mad because he is not getting his way and that he just doesn't want to be tied down on his days off. God I just want to smack her sometimes...okay all the time.
because he would be losing 6
because he would be losing 6 days a month with her and he is not willing to go 2 weeks without seeing her, AND he doesn't want to be a "weekend visitor". That is not parenting to either of us, ESPECIALLY when she starts school full time. We have her every 4 days for 2 days right now a 2-4-2-4 schedule that was supposed to be a stepping stone for 50/50 and now BM is renegging on it.
It seriously sucks when the
It seriously sucks when the dads fall for this crap. DH did the same thing .. giving in to BM early on because they were "working towards" a new schedule.
Now that BM is CP, it's almost impossible to change. We fight and claw for every extra bit of time we can get.
Not to mention it'd be 1000x
Not to mention it'd be 1000x better for SD to go to school in your district than BM's... One of the top schools in the NATION vs 90% illiterate graduates... I think I know which one I would choose...
that too
that too
I think your DH and his
I think your DH and his attorney need to really go in fighting hard for a full 50/50 split; whether that be week on/week off or a 3 day rotation.
The reality is parents work. A judge, while he could be swayed by work schedules, will not determine custody based solely on that as long as care can be provided for the child.
My DH works a 2 week rotating shift .. 2 weeks on days, 2 weeks on nights. He STILL gets the skids even when he works nights and he's not home.
What about every other
What about every other weekend and every Wednesday? That should make her happy about the weekend and dh happy that he isn't losing time.
already tried that, she is
already tried that, she is impossible to reason with.
Honestly, I am think court is
Honestly, I am think court is going to be inevitable then. She wants the standard eowe and he wants the newer thinking 50/50 split. I think the only way this will get resolved is for the judge to decide.
thats what I've thought all
thats what I've thought all along, but the fact of the matter is he shouldn't have to lose time just because SHE wants more weekend time, thats insane. And they have never had a "standard visitation."
When SD was 9 months old they went to court and the judge granted SO every Sunday overnight, every other Friday overnight and every other Friday from 5-9pm.
THAT is def. not standard for a baby and a JUDGE gave him that. ALL after BM through a fit saying her would NEVER get any overnights with her.
Then, last summer they agreed outside of court (got it signed into a CO though by the judge) to the current 2-4-2-4 schedule.
There is no way in hell a judge is going to say, well you've had all this time with her for almost a year, lets just go back to the standard and give you only 4 overnights a month. That is ridiculous.
Now she is telling him to "sign off his rights" since he is only fighting for 50/50 so he doesn't have to pay support and doesn't want to be tied down on his days off. GAHHHH SHUT UP!!!!
The argument is "It will be
The argument is "It will be much more beneficial for our daughter to spend week about with each parent. This gives *daughter* time to adjust without knowing in a day they are moving back. It is also better for school that she is in one place for a week at a time. Far less disruptive"
My GD does 50/50. DD can go weeks without seeing her ex-bfs stupid face because the switcheroo day is Monday. HE drops GD off at school and DD picks her up. The following week the reverse happens.
I would also make sure SO keeps any texts where she is asking for him to sign off his rights because he wants to spend 50% of DDs time with him. THAT will not look good for her in court.
thankyouthankyouthankyouthank
thankyouthankyouthankyouthankyou! I am always trying to put into words what is in my head and you just plucked them right out!
That is exactly it, week on/week off is more stable. And we have all the emails saved, ready to be printed.
She is saying that he just wants 50/50 so he doesn't have to pay support, which I am pretty sure he would still have to since you can't split 365 right in two.
With the asinine ways the
With the asinine ways the family court laws and CS works, you can have the kids the MAJORITY of the time and still have to pay CS to the other parent!