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Finally some counselling...

HeatherM's picture

But WAIT... did I hear that right? BM is too busy to go???? Are you friggen kidding me?

Ok..so I've been feeling a little sorry for my stepson lately... still annoyed by him, but sorry for him all the same. I think he is going downhill, and I think there are many reasons... for one.. he really hates his stepdad... ok.. so he probably hates me too.. but too the point that he's upset to be around him?? AND BM leaves them together all the time... he's peeing even more frequently than usual, and after his holiday with Grandma..she advised me that they had to tell him several times to stop masturbating in front of them. I've had to tell him in the past too..
I know it's normal..to an extent... but usually at 8 years old you know not to do it in front of people!

Ok...and he's constantly having breakdowns... which I believe are simply manipulations of his parents..about how he wishes they were together...and he'll only be happy when that happens.. (he doesn't remember them together, so he fantasizes about it)... so regardless... I think he should talk to someone about his feelings...

He also seems to be using food moreso as a comfort all the time...

Ok... so DH thinks it's a great idea to see a counsellor and has set up an appointment... but trying to set the date is a different thing, BM doesn't think her son needs to go, and is therefore making scheduling anything really difficult. I wonder what she's so afraid of???? I mean counselling doesn't hurt! What does she not want to come out at a counselling session? That she neglects her kids? That she puts them last? hmmm... I've told DH he should go ahead and schedule... give her a date..and if she can't make it, go anyways... that will really put things into perspective for the counsellor I would think.

Hmmm... whatever.. I'm just pissed.

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frustrated stepmom's picture

do you think the step-dad has done anything to him? I haven't had a chance to read your previous blogs so you may have already covered that...if so, sorry Smile

HeatherM's picture

But you know I have no idea... sometimes I wonder... but no matter what kind of questions I ask, nothing comes of it. I'm not sure what to do, as I don't want to accuse anyone of anything, especially if there is nothing... I'm hoping it comes out in the counselling.

My SS tends to lie constantly as well, which makes it really hard to decipher truth from the lies... I mean he lies about absolutely everything under the sun..!

lovelylady's picture

i dont know any 8 yr old that masterbates. there has to be someting going on. it sure sounds like it. that poor kid does need counseling!! bc he does have some issues there. and thats also neglect if the ss does need help and she refusses to get that help for him... its a recipe for disaster.

"parents who are afraid to put thier foot down usually have children who step on their toes" ~chinese proverb~