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I'm having an affair with a man in BMs town....

Hatecopycats's picture

I work from home. With the exception of checking on my employees and going to the warehouse I am pretty much home all the time.

I love to clean and cook almost every night. I am a very " homey" type person. I would rather be at home decorating or reading or playing with my dogs than shopping at the mall and being on the go. I've always been that way.

Anyway, Friday i was pretty much home all day.....cleaned the pool, washed the cars, etc.....I went to my therapist at 4 pm

BM is a teacher and apparently she was off for Good Friday as were skids.....my bios had school that day.

This BITCH texts DH at work " Your "salt of the earth" wife is hanging all over a man here at the movie theater. The boys are very upset by this and when she saw us, she gave us a nasty look. You've picked such a winner!! Just thought you'd like to know the kind of trash you married"

WTF????? I have never even hung out in her Podunk ghetto area in my freaking life!!!!! If I was going to hang out with some man it wouldn't be in that shitty area that is almost an hour from where I live!!

I'm just disgusted and to make it worse DH actually asked me what I had done Friday!!!! He was very calm and nice aboutnit but I got the feeling he didn't totally not believe her text.

I was so pissed that this bitch has nothing better to do with her life then spread lies about me.

Now I know Some of you will think that maybe BM thinks she saw me but it was someone who looked like me, but you know what?? You don't do that unless you absolutely know you have the right person and it wasn't me!!!

I didn't even get defensive I just told DH I'm so sick of her and his kids.....I wish we could move somewhere some place far far away but I don't want to take my kids out of their high school. I'm just tired of her antics and always trying to cause chaos.

The rest of the weekend was fine and we didn't have his younger kid but I really had to make an effort to stay in a good mood and I wasn't going to let that skank ruin my Easter weekend ( and I honestly feel that were her intentions when she sent that lying text."

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ch21's picture

i don't think that a person should ever truly believe accustations made by their ex on their new partner. i mean if u are hearing it from everywhere and that person is giving u reason to believe they are cheating then maybe but on her comment alone i hope he doesn't believe her. i m curious to know did dh ask the kids about it or did u to see what they would say

Hatecopycats's picture

No he never responded to her text, nor did he call the skids.....he only sees the youngest skid now and we didn't have him this past weekend.

I don't think DH will ask skid anything.....I feel like confronting him myself, but it won't matter either way.

They are just all a bunch of crazies !!!

Shannon61's picture

DH needs to tell her not to text him unless it's regarding the kids . . period. The fact that he questioned you, shows doubt. Why is he giving her power in your relationship?

I'd make it clear to him, do not repeat any stupid BS comments the ex has made regarding me. Stop this ridiculousness now, before it gets out of hand. Once DH sets her straight, maybe she'll better utilize that time to get a life and man of her own.

Hatecopycats's picture

Lol....she is married!!! She got married 2 weeks after we did.

DH doesn't dignify any of her texts and we always just ignore them, but it's getting very difficult to do because she is always doing crazy things!!

I think DH does have doubt, that upsets me too........I guess I would wonder too, if someone sent me a text like that....but we know she is a crazy B****!!!!

Hatecopycats's picture

She hates being ignored.....that's we choose that as our weapon.

It would please her if I responded to her......as much as I want too, I know she would consider it a victory.

Ignoring her makes he wonder if we even gave her a text a min notice.

Of course I did and it really bothered me.......I'd NEVER let her know that.

oneoffour's picture

I would text back... You think? The thing is, did you enjoy the movie?.....

OR
Sorry,you sent this text to me in error. I forwarded it to your brother/boss/husband instead. Don't bother thanking me.

Gmama's picture

This is why we had her number blocked from DH cell phone,,
just to avoid shit like this,, these women have no buisness
calling/texting these mens phones at all if it has nothing
todo with kids,, we told the old bitch,, feel free to call
the house phone anytime,, but cells are for friends,family,
or buisness reasons, you are none of the above,,,

Done WIth It's picture

I'd bet that creepy BM and her creepy kids KNEW it wasn't you. But the creeps all chimed in together and probably had a good laugh.

That's what my husband's kids would do. BM would call my inlaws, tell them a lie, then you just knew the toothless old goat and the 3 kids would just be so smug. Dummy would empower her kids, they walked all over her...she suffered. But at least she got something nasty in.

In laws would call, it wouldn't be but for a minute until it was set straight. The last phone call from BM....I called where she worked and left a message asking that she please no call leaving such hateful messages...then sighned my name. OMG...she about messed her pants when the office staff talked about her.

You turn those tables. You call them on it. You make sure they see what liars they are. Most important, you get something good out of the situation.....you either buy yourself something nice, because that helps the hurt. You do something fun (of course, they're definately not included) because husband wants you to feel good after the wrong against you.

As soon as they see you benefit from their lies, the crap usually get knocked off.....somewhat.

Really....try not to lower yourself to their nasty level. Make it that you somehow benefit from thier hurtful lies. Live and love well with your husband. And be sure and make sure they see what you got from their being mean...heopfully, something that sparkles.

Hatecopycats's picture

Thank you....that's why we never respond to her crazy texts or emails....for one thing if we responded she would know it upset us and for another we know she HATES being ignored more then anything!!!

She's probably upset DH never responded or called the ratched kids to ask them about it. It just hurts because we have so much to deal with when it comes to my husbands leukemia , I just am always amazed at how low they will go and just when I think they can't go any lower, they sink to a new low.

The only thing that makes me feel somewhat better is the fact I know she is miserable and hates DH and I have such a great relationship. Forget our marriage ....we really LIKE each other as people and we great friends .

She is no longer the alpha dog and hates that she has no control over our lives.

She PASed 3 of the 4 skids and the irony of it is, she can't use them as spies anymore since we don't allow them in our home.

I guess this is her desperate attempt to divide our home yet again.....l

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