Why do I let it affect me???
SO...I am in this constant struggle to let Bm, hubbys ex wife, not get to me~after 10yrs of dealing with this I should be able to not let it get to me and upset me!! One little comment or text message and Im in a completely different mood, and I just beat myself up that I let her do that to me!!
Seriously, I pray everynight that we can all get along~ well its not hubby and I that have the problem~its her. But I keep hoping that she will somehow become a nice person. Not the nice person she pretends to be so she can throw it in your face~ you know the type of "nice person" that does something for someone etc so she can say oh look I am so nice I did this for you.
I have contemplated many many times of leaving my hubby because of all the stress and nonsense that she creats in our lives...but then she wins~~~~ but if I stay, she wins still, she gets to make my life miserable, I dont show it to her that she does...but she knows the things that she does~she has to live with herself. I want more kids with DH, we both do~but because of her, I dont feel like I can! I wont leave him ever~thats just a struggle that I often go trough! I know that what goes around comes back around~thats what gets me through most days, and latley she has had her share of crap that she put other ppl through~and yet, I pray I that she doesnt have to go through with it...what the heck is wrong with me!!!
i could go on and on......
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Hang in there Ten...
You do have to work on not letting her bug you. It's been 10 years, and I have to work on it everyday too. It's not easy, but we HAVE to have thick, rhino skin (as my DH says). We have to let it just slide off our backs. Hang in there...we are here for you.
I agree, you need skin as
I agree, you need skin as thick as an elephant to deal with some bm. You just have to keep ignoring their little games and get on with your life together. V hard to say I know but its the only way. We find that laughing at the bms pathetic attempts to sabbotage our relationship actually makes us stronger and her seem so much more pathetic. Dont allow someone else to influence your mood.
"Dispute not with her, she is a lunatic."
tracey
i LOVE ur quote!! how true!
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
i feel the same way
one text or call and my mood turns from happy to miserable. its bc its always unnecessary nonsense. we just have to remind ourselves that BM doesnt really mean ANYTHING to us...and i do mean ANYTHING. shes not worth getting upset and worked up over. im lucky that i have a FH who cant stand her and really has gotten so much better and standing up to her and not taking her crap and letting her get away w her bs. that does wonders.
hang in there...we're all in the same boat. we cant change BM, but we CAN change how it affects (or doesnt affect) us.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin