No can do there DH..no can do...ha
DH isn't perfect and honestly he really doesn't like dealing with the less than fun aspects of parenting. I mean who does....its not fun but a necessary evil. Dh would LOOOOVVEEE it if I would take over the crappy parts of parenting SD. Yea..no can do there DH...no can do. I raised my two..they are now almost fully functioning adults (DS still needs a JOB). They handle their own affairs, I'm just here to bank roll the college education and provide help if asked.
SD is only 14..she's not fully baked yet. She is ADHD and her exective functioning is less than what you would consider appropriate for a 14 year old. DH and I took some courses on ADHD at out Children's hospital and bascially SD will be about 30% behind her peers. In essance she is 14 in chronological years but really only about 11 maybe 12 maturity wise.
Enter...THE PHONE.....SD has an iphone. SD cannot regulate herself and left to her own devices she will be on that thing all night. I still question..wth are the other parents that their kids are on their phones all night...but ok. DH has to physically remove SD's phone from her room in order for SD to go to sleep. Otherwise..SD gets no sleep and is an absolute PITA to get up in the morning. I don't get SD up..nope I backed away from that mess years ago. I have no tolerance for morning shenanigans.
Lately DH has been slacking with SD and the phone. I have been sending him reminders to get her phone and make her go to bed. Last night...around 10 she still had the phone and DH was downstairs oblivious and watching TV. I send him reminders otherwise they argue and wake my @ss up the in the morning. That makes Halo and uphappy camper.
I sent the following text to him (I"m upstairs in bed I wasn't hauling my nice and warm rear end downstairs).
DH unless you want an argument in the morning you need to get SD's phone. Also put a an alarm on your phone to get SD's phone. I'm not your alarm.
Woo....DH was not pleased.
DH: Why can't you just do it...
Halo: Nope not my kid..I didn't create it therefore I don't have to deal with it.
DH: I don't want to deal with it. I hate dealing with this stuff
Halo: Too bad...your kid your problem
DH: can't you just deal with it. Your better at it.
Halo: Yep I am but nope not dealing with SD. You made SD..you get to deal with her.
DH: Ugh...seriously just deal with it. STOP BUGGING ME
Halo: NOT A CHANCE IN HELL BUDDY ...GET UP AND GET HER PHONE. YOUR THE PARENT..NOT ME. GET YOUR ASS UP HERE AND TAKE THE DAMN PHONE
DH then begrudingly went up and got it.
DH really thought by telling me I was better at it would get me to do it.
Halo waving her finger..NO NO DH..no can do...no can do.