Annoyed with my DS....not so Dear right now
DS is 22, graduated college and is on the autism spectrum. He was diagnosed at the age of 7. That being said...enough already.
He is 22..just now got his first part time job. His father, the VI and I had to push for that. DS just wanted to continue to go to college. Mmm..yea NO.
DD was suppsed to attend college overseas...in the UK. Covid crushed those dreams so she is going to her second choice, which is about 2 miles from my house. DD asked in lieu of a dorm room two miles from the house, could be rent her an apartment using the money that would have been used for her dorm/food had she gone overseas. Ok sure...
DS, who we (the VI and I) made him attend a local college..BECAUSE DS WOULD NOT DECIDE ON WHERE HE WANTED TO GO. In the end he missed every flippen deadline for applications so we said..ok then community college it is for the first 2 years and then he transferred to the local big 10 college here. Let just say...they love scarlet and gray. Ok...DS never asked to move out into a dorm or an apartment.
DS upon hearing we would fork over money for her rent...wanted to know where his free rent came from....the free rent he never asked for.
DH and I decided rather than spend money on rent we would buy a condo and DD and DS can live there while DD is attending college. DD gets her freedom and DS gets to launch slowly since he definately is on the spectrum. The kids are responsible for the utilities and their own food. That is IT...we pay the mortage and the HOA. Pretty sweet deal....we found a really nice 2 bedroom condo with two full baths for them.
DD was packed and ready to go...DS not so much, as in NOTHING PACKED. DD has been going back and forth with stuff and getting things set up. DS..nada. DD has painted, cleaned etc..DS..nada.
It has been like pulling teeth to get this kid (I use that term lightly) to do anything. Then the other day...he was all mopey because "you are kicking me out". YA THINK THERE DS...Yes I am kicking you out of my house to a fully paid condo. At 22 yes..I am kicking you out to become independent.
All DS wants to do is sit around play games and relax. Yea...that time has passed. You are 22 and time to start adulting..I'm even helping you do the adulting thing slowly.
Good lord...this kid is going to drive me to drink. I feel bad he thinks we are kicking him out but then again....he needs to start being a little indepdent.
Am I wrong here????? Help....