I guess I will keep DH...sometimes that is questionable...J/K..SORT OF
DH can be trying at times. His ADHD drives me nuts...as in I was working the other night on something that takes a lot of concentration on my part and he kept coming in to talk to me.
Halo..where are these papers
Halo...what do you think of these condos (we are trying to buy an investment condo for DD to live while in college)
Halo...do you know where this is?
Halo...what are you doing? Are you still working...
UGGGHHHHH..I finally snapped and told him to zip it that I was WORKING.
Yea he wasn't too pleased I told him to shut his yap..but oh well.
My job and paycheck basically fund our household. Why is that you ask...well here is why..and why I will keep DH despite his constant interruptions.
Dh has been to court with the Beaver every SINGLE year since the divorce...EVERY FLIPPING YEAR. Its exhausting and very very very costly.
Due to the constant court filings..by year 10 post divorce DH had wracked up 51K in court expenses. Ugh...typing that hurts my soul.
About 3 years ago, DH approached me with the idea of him securing a loan, the man has an amazing credit score, to pay off the 51K in court costs. However, if he did that it would mean I would be carrying the household while he paid off the loan.
Ooofff..that was a bit of tough conversation. I agreed and the man had a plan. On we went...
Last night DH approached me and told me the loan will be paid off in about 3 months....using his bonuses, raises and the money he would normally give me, he had paid off 51K plus interest and other credit card debt (I think around 7k) in 3 years.
Since the loan is about to be paid off and he will get another bonus at the end of December he has decided he will give me the bonus money to put in our savings or to use for homerepairs, our fence of whatever. Also in December he will be taking the loan payment money (the loan payment could rival a mortgage payment) and putting that into our joint so that I no longer carry our household.
In three years I have never said a word to DH about this or griped about it. It meant I had to tighten my budget etc and drive an older car. But hey..you do what you gotta do.
As it stands..after December the only debt we will be carrying will be our mortgage. It has been tough long slog for us to get DH out of court debts, etc.
But..this is why I will keep him.......that and he said last night..since you have to pay all of DD's college expenses since the VI refuses to, I want to help. He said...Let's face it VI isn't going to step up and help....and neither of my kids will be going to college. I want to help you send DD to college. She deserves it and you deserve to have help. You have helped me all these, now it's my turn.