I want to know how it works. What is the first step you have to do, to fight for custody, and how much does it cost?
And also, since i have been googling lawyers prices, how is it that you guys are forever fighing at the court for child support and custody, are you rich or something? Good lord!
:O
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
Our BM is useless and didn't hire one either, but she didn't fight anything either (and if we had known that would be the case sooooo many things would be different). I think it cost us (in Arizona) about 3K, and worth every penny. You either get a referral from a friend or you start calling around and asking for consultations. Essentially, unless she just agrees and signs, you will end up in court. The lawyer does most of the work but make sure you make things that you want VERY clear. Down to holidays pick up and drop off times, who will be picking and dropping off the child, holiday rotations (Christmas here one year and there the next), medical bills, etc. Take time to think it out.
Well we have spent about 11,000 over the past 3 years in lawyer fees, but it was all well worth it my SS has a stable home and lives with his father and I where he should. It was difficult but we borrowed the money or paid the lawyer off a little at a time, then when we got our taxes back we paid off most of every one we borrowed from. It is about the child and if you can borrow the money then I suggest you do it. I love my SS very much and I know this is the best place for him. However, it is well worth not having to pay his BM 600 a month for 13 more years, my SS is only 5, but that is not the poing I would have paid her CS if we could have raised SS without so much of her influence, now I have the best of both worlds, it has taken 3 years but she lost her son she sees him 5 days out of the month and now she has to pay us 300 a month in CS, that just happened today so I am very excited!!!! In the end the money is not the important part, document everything you are going to need it, and be on your best behavior, it is about the kid as much as BM pisses you off and you want to piss her off, dont she is probably documenting too!!!
We've spent about $10k on lawyers in the past 3 years. That's also considering the restraining orders and bogus lawsuits that BM has filed against us as well.
Every time we have to go to court it costs us about $1,000. Custody battles can wage on for months or years with court dates scheduled every one to three months.
and have spent almost $16k in attorneys fees. We haven't even been to court yet. There is always some reason to delay another month. I think its a rackett for attorneys to make money. It doesn't do anyone any good but make people more resentful towards the end. We are now looking sometime in June!
The kids are put in the middle and my PAS BM has more time to make them feel guilty for wanting to live with DH.
DH put in his motion that BM pay for attorneys fees if we go to trial. BM keeps doing stupid stuff each day that goes by I am hoping she is losing her mind!
We have spent well over $20,000 since the end of 2006. After the Lawyers fees, you have to pay court stuff to like ( parenting class, mediation, parentning coordinators).
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Depends......
I definitely have to say it is a situation that you get what you pay for........also depends if BM will hire one?
BM is broke as hell
So nooo, she wouldn't!
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
Actually
I want to know how it works. What is the first step you have to do, to fight for custody, and how much does it cost?
And also, since i have been googling lawyers prices, how is it that you guys are forever fighing at the court for child support and custody, are you rich or something? Good lord!
:O
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
Our BM is useless and didn't
Our BM is useless and didn't hire one either, but she didn't fight anything either (and if we had known that would be the case sooooo many things would be different). I think it cost us (in Arizona) about 3K, and worth every penny. You either get a referral from a friend or you start calling around and asking for consultations. Essentially, unless she just agrees and signs, you will end up in court. The lawyer does most of the work but make sure you make things that you want VERY clear. Down to holidays pick up and drop off times, who will be picking and dropping off the child, holiday rotations (Christmas here one year and there the next), medical bills, etc. Take time to think it out.
Well we have spent about
Well we have spent about 11,000 over the past 3 years in lawyer fees, but it was all well worth it my SS has a stable home and lives with his father and I where he should. It was difficult but we borrowed the money or paid the lawyer off a little at a time, then when we got our taxes back we paid off most of every one we borrowed from. It is about the child and if you can borrow the money then I suggest you do it. I love my SS very much and I know this is the best place for him. However, it is well worth not having to pay his BM 600 a month for 13 more years, my SS is only 5, but that is not the poing I would have paid her CS if we could have raised SS without so much of her influence, now I have the best of both worlds, it has taken 3 years but she lost her son she sees him 5 days out of the month and now she has to pay us 300 a month in CS, that just happened today so I am very excited!!!! In the end the money is not the important part, document everything you are going to need it, and be on your best behavior, it is about the kid as much as BM pisses you off and you want to piss her off, dont she is probably documenting too!!!
I had a consultation once
I had a consultation once for my son and was quoted 5K. I didn't do it, at least not yet. We still miraciously have worked things out among ourselves.
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
A lot
We've spent about $10k on lawyers in the past 3 years. That's also considering the restraining orders and bogus lawsuits that BM has filed against us as well.
Every time we have to go to court it costs us about $1,000. Custody battles can wage on for months or years with court dates scheduled every one to three months.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
We are in month 8 in our case........
and have spent almost $16k in attorneys fees. We haven't even been to court yet. There is always some reason to delay another month. I think its a rackett for attorneys to make money. It doesn't do anyone any good but make people more resentful towards the end. We are now looking sometime in June!
The kids are put in the middle and my PAS BM has more time to make them feel guilty for wanting to live with DH.
DH put in his motion that BM pay for attorneys fees if we go to trial. BM keeps doing stupid stuff each day that goes by I am hoping she is losing her mind!
We have spent well over
We have spent well over $20,000 since the end of 2006. After the Lawyers fees, you have to pay court stuff to like ( parenting class, mediation, parentning coordinators).