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Georgie Girl's picture

Submitted by Georgie Girl on Thu, 03/20/2008 - 6:51pm

Hi ladies,

I am just curious as to what you think about this. My dh has split physical custody with the bm. We do not pay child support but we do pay for all of the skids needs, clothing, medical, etc... I am not sure what is in their divorce decree but this is how it has been since I have known dh.

Recently sd got braces. She is under dh's insurance and it pays part. Mil volunteered to pay a portion and the rest is our responsibility. Am I wrong in wondering why bm does not have to pay a penny? As I said, I do not know if that is what is in the divorce decree but I think bm should pay at least a part of it.

I have not said anything to dh.

Georgie

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smurfy1smile's picture

Submitted by smurfy1smile on Thu, 03/20/2008 - 7:04pm

I would ask to see it and if DH doesn't have it or can't find it get a copy from the county court house where they were divorced. It is public information and you may have to pay a couple of bucks for the copy but it may be worth it. Then you will know what it says and who pays how much for what. It is very nice of grandma to help with the cost but braces are expensive and if BM is supposed to pay a portion than she should.

I have to bill my ex for any non covered expenses and let him know his portion with a copy of the bills and then he is suppoed to pay. If he doesn't then a judgment is entered for the smount owed.

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Submitted by sparky on Fri, 03/21/2008 - 9:05am

I would get the document to see what it says, BUT I would let sleeping dogs lie. I don't know how your H got out of paying CS plus for everything else, but he was very lucky. If she gets a bur up her but she can still take him through the washing machine, and if you do pay the dental its tax deductible.

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Submitted by gobbism on Fri, 03/21/2008 - 9:33am

If it's equal or greater than DH's income then no, he shouldn't owe any in fact if she makes a substantial amount more than him he might be entitled to CS.

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Submitted by Georgie Girl on Fri, 03/21/2008 - 12:45pm

The truth is that is does not bother me at all and I don't plan on saying a thing. Like I said it has always been this way and thankfully we can cover the expense, I was just curious. We have the decree at our home; I just haven't ever cared to read it. I guess I was really just looking for different opinions and sometimes I get a bug up my *ss about things.

I am actually thankfull that we do not have to pay child support. If we had to pay all expenses and then have to pay child support too, I would be aggravated. At least we know that what we pay out goes to the actual care of the skids. I didn't mention this before buy even though it is 50/50 custody we have the skids about 70% of the time.

Georgie

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Submitted by ttina on Fri, 03/21/2008 - 3:39pm

My husband and I have the kids like you do. They have 50/50. She makes less than he does AND still pays him Child support b/c he pays all expenses (child care & Insurance). On medical they split all that the insurance doesn't cover half and half. We don't bother with meds unless they are expensive. She doesn't take the kids to the drs so it's always her paying us back.