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Georgie Girl's picture

I just found out from my bd that sd is going to get another peircing as her b-day present from bm. I was a but surprised but not really. When sd turned 13 bm's gift to her was a nose peircing, for 14th a belly button piercing and now a "monroe," which is an upper lip piercing where a beauty mark would be. She also has gauged ears that are big enought to shove pencils through.

I asked bd if dh knew and she said yes. Who knows if he really does or not but the whole thing bugs me. IMO when you are under the age of 18 you should not be allowed to get anything permanent ie: piercings and tattoos.

Am I nuts to think that kids should wait until 18 for this kind of stuff? I am making my bd wait for that sort of thing.

confused...

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Brooklynne's picture

I don't think you're nuts at all. My mom was okay with extra piercings in the ears (not the gauge kind), but not anywhere else. She said if we wanted those, then we had to wait until we were 18 years old. I will address this matter in the exact same way with my kids (if I ever have any).

smnikki's picture

incase something happens. like it gets infected, she can come to you rather than letting it get worse. i got my tongue pierced at 13 or 14, and my belly button at 14. My mom didnt know about either. now being an adult, i still have me belly button, just because i forget its there, but as far as the tounge, i realized how trashy it was and its taken out and there is no scar. Thank God i did that instead of get a tattoo.

Gia's picture

For those places to pierce underage people?

~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's

smnikki's picture

if you have written parental consent

WowjustWow's picture

In my state no piercings under 18 other than the outside of the ears and belly button. Parental consent or not. I don't think you can do ear stretchers either (which are yucky IMO). I think 13, 14, 15 are too young for facial piercings/tattoos. Thank god I wasn't able to get them then, I'd have some messed up stuff going on. People change so much from when they are that age.

SD14 is dying for a tongue ring. She thinks she can get one for her 15th bday. I keep telling her it is against the law in our state, but she thinks she is right (teenagers!). We aren't against tattoos or piercings, we would be hypocrites if we were (both of us have tattoos and body/facial piercings), but after 18 she can do whatever she wants. If she wants to tattoo "I'm a dumbass on her face" after she is 18, that is her problem, not ours. Would it be stupid, yes, but it's her stupid mistake to make at that point.

~ Formerly ToTheEdge. I have stepped down from the ledge.

kaffonseca's picture

Way too much...I may be a little more leniant than some. My own stepdad would not allow us to get any piercings at all (not even ears) til we were 18. I didn't get my ears pierced til' I was 24!

A nose ring at 14 MAYBE I "might" consider it. I was totally against it..but a few of my BD's friends have very very small ones so I told my daughter "I'd think about it" but I'm really strict about that kind of stuff so I don't know.

A belly button ring - no way..not til she is 18. You have a belly button ring you just want to start wearing skimpy clothes to show it off. No tongue rings - that means you like to give "...."..no piercings anywhere on face. And a tattoo?? at 16..No friggen' way

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

Georgie Girl's picture

will follow for her 16th or something. Bm will go with her to get it all done; perfectly legal here. Tasteless, but legal. It just floors me that Dh has no opinion and will not EVER say no to ANYTHING sd wants. It is absolutely crazy to me and makes my job as a parent harder because I have to really go over everything sd does and why I will not allow that with my own bd.

I don't have an issue with piercings per say; it is underage piercings that I have an issue with. Sd was also just caught with drugs and condoms. Too much too young in my opinion...

smnikki's picture

my mom and step father were absolutely against it! my mom said she would send me to live with my father if i got any piercings. It was a phase, and i grew out of it. My dad knew i had them, and didnt care. In hind sight, my mom realizes that it was not worth all the drama because eventually i grew up and saw what an idiot i looked like, and nothing she did or threatened me with mattered, it only stressed her out.