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Anyone unfriend their MIL on FB so the BM cant see you?

frustratedinMA's picture

So, I have been on MIL's FB friend for over a year. Periodically, I check her list of friend's to make sure that you know who isnt on there, and cant then gain access to my pics or wall.

Well, today I checked.. and I guess its been over a month since I have.. and of COURSE she has friended her.. (^&*&^+*&^&*^

So, hopefully this worked.. I blocked the exwife, I changed all my settings on pictures and my wall to be only friends, and not friends of friends.

I am so freakin annoyed. People in their first marriage dont have to worry about crap like this.. so why do I? Why cant Inlaws just keep boundaries? Why do they have to let the BMs in?

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ohnoyoudidnt's picture

I un-friended my SIL and my BIL. Blocked BM six ways to Sunday and all her clan friends.

MarriedwithChild's picture

Don't worry be happy and join the FB club!

I blocked every damn IL on FB with the same last name as mine.

One IL has the EX listed as DIL still and thought that was okay. (not)

*blocked*

sweetthing's picture

Honey everything I know about your MIL ( Mrs Shingles) doesn't make this very surprising. My MIL is normal & she is on FB with MIL. I always think good, I hope MIL loves all the pictures of her swilling beer & the manimal straddling BM's fiance when they were drunk. Nice for a bunch of people in their late 30's early 40's.

MarriedwithChild's picture

Lovely indeed.

My IL's are on as some form of "gamblers" with NO class at all. I would not want them on my FB profile even.

They can keep Grizzly as their DIL. I mean that.

smnikki's picture

i got some good advice from a member here about this. my cousin in law was friends with bm on myspace, and i deleted her as soon as she added me and i saw that they were friends. she then emailed me to ask if i deleted her because of bm...here is what i wrote.

yes cousin-in-law that is why i deleted you. please know that i did not do it for any malicious or mean reason. its just that bm has been constantly harassing us, and we are currently in the middle of a court battle with her. For that reason, we have been advised to eliminate any type of connection in online networking sites like mayspace and facebook. I hope you understand that it doesnt have anything to do with you, we just need to protect our selves form her and her constant harassment.

cousin in law wrote me back and said she rarely checks her myspace anyways, and she and i could be friends on fb, because she had already denied a friend request from bm on fb, and told bm that since i was on her fb, she was not going to add bm.

oddly, mil(satan) has not added bm on fb yet. i block both of them..but the thing is, you can easily make a fake profile or have a friend look someone up. i just set the settings so that they cant see my whole profile.

i would delete mil, and explain that you just dont want it causing any drama, and that its nothing against her. maybe she might get that maybe she should not have added bm?! ive learned most people are selfish and stupid, its as if they dont know other people's feelings matter...until they get called out on it, and then hopefully they get it

coySM's picture

BM added me about 6 months ago. I refused to add her. I don't want her knowing what we do where we go. we are civil but she definately doesn't need to be that close to us. and I don't know why she would want us knowing her business either. ???

nycSM's picture

I made sure BM and BM cronies are all blocked from any networking site I'm on. BF did the same thing. It's for the best.

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StepChicka's picture

I'm friends with my X-inlaws including XH on FB for picture exchanges and that's about it. BM is on DH's FB for the same reason. But none of us are mad freaks about facebook ie...giving status updates, writing on walls, and whatnot. There's no private information disclosed.

If we were FB-finatics or things between all of us were acrimonious then it would be a different story.

In your case FrustratedinMA it was wise for you to take percautions.

pandalove984's picture

All this blocking and un-friending or never friending of MIL and BMs- how about the fact that skids have fb and I will not friend them nor accept requests from them to be friends simply because BM uses their accounts to see what DH and I are up to. We used to have myspace (which we both have deleted since) in which DH was actually friends with BM as well as skids and she found ways of using what I wrote to my own husband against him. I just don't need anymore drama that we already have in our lives by idiot BM looking on their accounts to see us. Needless to say, DH is not friends with his own kids on facebook either!

Cece51's picture

In the beginning I was friends with both skids on FB. My BC was also friends with them. Then I noticed when ever my daugther would post something like "chilling with fam at mall" or "can't wait to see xyz movie tonight" the skids would ask to come over. Or the SD would text DH all night long.

Then I noticed if I posted a photo with BC and DH, my husband would get a call. The calls would be that his SD is doesn't think you love her. Or you need to spend time with your kids...blah blah blah.

So I had my BC unfriend them. My BC is 14 and already knew what was up. Then I unfriended them as well. I told my DH I thought BM was on my FB page more than I was. It was amazing seeing her show up at a happy hour I was at. My DH tested her. I posted "happy hour at XYZ lounge, taking hubby out for a few" This place was no where near her house or job. She would have no reason to show up. Sure enough she did. Funny thing is we didn't go...my brother is the DJ there and he called when she and her two cousins showed up. He said she walked around looking for us. Then everytime the door opened she would turn around. That convinced hubby she was following us on FB...sad part is DH had to unfriend his owns kids b/c of her.

unbelieveable's picture

Thank God my freaking FMIL can't type, spell, or do anything that requires any type of skill or intelligence. She is the CRAZIEST woman I have ever met and does weird things to FH and I all the time - like waits until we're getting ready for bed - then dials BM and just hands him the phone? WTF? Keeping boundaries for that woman will just never happen. If she had a facebook she would be the last person I "friended." I don't want to befriend her in real life - let alone the facebook life. She does nothing but try to ruin our relationship and according to my futre sister in law - she did the same thing to her and fh's brother before they got married and she is still trying. Future sister in law also told me she did the same thing to BM when they (FH and SHE) were still together (if that's what you want to call it). She doesn't even like her but she will call and ask her to come over (and she does...). Alot of MIL's do this just because they don't want to see their sons happy. CCRRAAZZZIIIEESSS

unbelieveable's picture

p.s. stepaside - I too am a member of that site since I seem to get tramped on here for having a FMIL who is a NUTJOB. If ANYONE has a crazy MIL get on that site and read read read - you will LAUGH hyterically and maybe you'll think yours is not soooo bad! hahah!