WHAT DO I DO?? HELP PLEASE!!
Last week my step kids came home from court, they had to see thier dad in court . And they made a neccessary choice to speak the truth against him. I'm so proud of them , and I wanted to come home an hug them all but when i walked into our home , i smelled strong odor of marijuana. Their mother and Love of my life, was sunken into a depression laying in bed , while the kids music was blasting along with the strong smell of weed coming from the 18 year old daughters room .I yelled and said " I can smell it in their ... !!". I cannot be anywhere near that or have any smell of it on me, because I am going through a special clearance. I could loose my job if the investigator showed up at the house and it reaked of weed.
I was accused of being a bully, and not having any empathy for their plight. Which was wrong because I did.... I didnt expect to come home to a house smelling like that. I was given the silent treatment and made to feel outcasted. Maybe I deserved that, and maybe I dont. Now maybe I should've just told their mom, but maybe she already knew. I dont know. But I did know that they would indulge at parties, because I would smell them when they walked in , and they smelled bad... I told them I cant tell you to stop smoking because you all wont listen, and it would break your mothers heart.. Just keep it away from our home...the daughter does not listen and neither does the son. I bring it up to my Wife during the final confrontation and she just accuses me of being mean to them, she dosent believe me at all. Her son lied to her, told her he dosent do it... and he raises his voice louder when confronted. I'm seriously looking at this young man lie when he knows I know. Now my wife wants to leave me, 8 years wasted , I wanted to be with her forever, and it's over a lie that her kids told her. The kids do not help her , she cleans after them , rooms are pig pens, restroom is a mess, they leave stuff out of the fridge and it goes bad, they smoke weed, and are all lazy, all I want is help from them , clean, help mom, please help mom, but video games and phones are priorities before mom. I really hurt, and I love my wife , and she wants to be happy. How do I help how do I avoid divorce??