Falling away from my family.
So I have a 15 year old step son. He blames most of his behavior problems on me. Says that because I have an occasional drink, that he doesn't want to interact with me.
Says he hates alcohol because he saw his Biological Donor drink 1 beer 1 time. Sorry, but I don't believe that for a second.
I mean this guy is a real piece of work. Doesn't pay support, never calls Devin, lives only a short distance away and never sees him. Yet, he can do no wrong. Very hard to swallow for me.
I try to engage in conversation, activities and other things with him but he basically acts like he doesn't like me or isn't interested.
I am trying to be open minded but I am not one who forces themselves onto others if they do not want my company.
Needless to say, it is affecting my life every day.
My wife tends to play "momma bear" when I want to hand down some discipline. So I am finding myself drifting away from them.
I don't like being around people who act like they don't want me there.
Anyone else feeling this? Because it sucks big time.
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Oh,the one drink thing! That
Oh,the one drink thing! That sounds so familiar! My skids have literally called their dad an alcoholic because he a glass of wine at his BIL's during dinner. This part all comes from their BM.....
DISENGAGING might be the
DISENGAGING might be the best thing for you. He isn't your child. Your wife and yourself need to be on the same page as far as SS, if not, your SS will destroy your marriage. I think everyone on here has felt this way one time or another.
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
I was talking to SIL one day
I was talking to SIL one day because she is a SM. The BM was an alcoholic and couldn't take care of herself let alone her own daughter. So SIL and her DH took SD in and raised her. SIL told me that it's really hard taking care and raising children, especially children that aren't yours. She told me that for the good bit of time she lived there her and her SD barely said two words to one another. They both disengaged with one another. SIL said that was probably the best thing that either one of them could have done. Now they have a wonderful relationship (SD is much older now) and SD considers SIL to be her Mother.
So I agree, maybe try disengaging?
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Sounds like you and your
Sounds like you and your wife need to reconnect. Why don't you use Valentines Day to do that! I agree with another person who wrote to you...he is not your child. Support your wife in her decisions to raise him, but since he doesn't try to be your son, just focus on your marriage.