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doll faced sm's picture

I see a lot of new faces here, which happens when you're absent for a while, but an update for those who may remember me:

I've been working in my field for 3 months now; not the best pay, but priceless experience, beautiful area, and wonderful company.

I left my husband. His initial reaction was exactly what I expected - attempts to control the situation through various threats. Then, some kind of light switch flipped in his head, and he started treating me like a human again. Too little, too late for this chickie, but it has made the process of dividing assets and bills, and deciding on custody and child support very smooth. We've managed to become friends again, and I feel more respected now that I ever did during our relationship.

And, the pièce de résistance . . .

Nice, childless men *do* exist. I've recently started dating one. He's polite, well mannered, has his life together, and treats me amazingly well. So, it can happen; it's not a pipe dream. If your gut is telling you to run, do it now. Don't sacrifice years of effort, your emotional and mental well being, your finances, and your self esteem. Life is too short not to live well.

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doll faced sm's picture

"you deserve happiness and ZERO bullshit", so zero bullshit sounds about right Smiling

Darn straight! Blum 3

Steppy MN2's picture

So glad to hear things are going so well for both of you doll faced & stepdown and you are both out of stephell. It's so wonderful!!
My DH moved out a couple weeks ago (he had to as I own this house free and clear) after threatening divorce off and on for nine months. He is also being an ass and still trying to control me with threats so I'm hoping at some point soon he will turn into a human being but I highly doubt it. At least I admitted that I had anger and resentment when we were going to counseling and he sat there all smug like he didn't have either and I was the crazy one. Well, I think he's waaaaay more angry and resentful than I ever was!!
I have lost 12 lbs since he's been gone. I gained about 40 lbs living in stephell. Ya know constantly hearing how everything was my fault caused a little bit of emotional eating. Ugh!
I still spend a fair amount of time on this site as it gives me strength to move forward and not be tempted to go back to stephell because it's much easier to be in the familiar. This place saved my emotional sanity, I swear! Letting me know that it wasn't all my fault and my feelings were valid.
It's onward and upward ladies!!!!!!!!

Steppy MN2's picture

Didn't realize how much it all sucked until I got out. I forgot what it felt like to be peaceful and not all stressed out all the time!!
Well ya know after you keep banging your head against the same wall continuously you get a flippin' headache................headache is fading quickly.
Ain't it great!!

Steppy MN2's picture

Thanks Sweet Pea. The support that all of you here have given was absolutely invaluable. It was a Godsend that I found this site. All the 'you don't care about my kids', 'you don't want my kids around', 'you are to blame that my daughter won't speak to you', all the guilt and manipulation by my DH....it was all bullshit and I didn't fully realize it until I found all of you here.
Even a blind squirrel finds a nut once in a while!