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dixiebell's picture

I'm new and I'm hoping for some tips on how to get along with my hubby's two kids. He has a son that's 24 and a daughter that is 16. We have a 2 year old daughter together. His son ignores me and his daughter hates me.

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BorBor's picture

HI Dixiebell,
Well, since the kids are older its gotta be tough. First thing that comes to mind is the SD 16, teenagers!! }:) They can give you the hardest time for no reason.

What I would do is just be yourslf, dont worry to much about pleasing them or looking for their acceptance.

Enjoy your baby girl, if they upset you, go to your husband and let him handle them. He really needs to support you and no-one should be disrespecting you. Your husband needs to put them in their place.

Just be yourself, Im sure they will come around. Smile

Angel's picture

His son IGNORES you? That is up to your husband to fix. He needs to put you on the pedestal and his son in his place. YOU cannot fix this----YOUR HUSBAND HAS TO.

Why does his daughter hate you?

dixiebell's picture

He's gone so much on business that when he is home I hate to bother him about his kids. As for his daughter I'm clueless, she seems to still be friends with my younger sister.

Angel's picture

better, you need to find out why she "hates" you. Does she live there? Does she love her half sister?

dixiebell's picture

No, she calls her the thing and it. She lives with her mother and only comes around or calls when she wants daddy to buy her stuff. He says he can't make her visit or like me and the baby but I think he should try.

imagr8tma's picture

That is rude. Geez. Sounds like her mom has really worked on her and has tainted her view of things.

I would sit down and talk with DH with the children present if possible - maybe that will help to get down to the bottom of whatever the issues are.

dixiebell's picture

I think they blame me for the divorce. It's not my fault hubby wasn't happy with their mother. Sad

goodmom's picture

Because if you were you are f*cked. No matter how miserable their dad was you will ALWAYS be the home wrecker. I don't mean to be pessimistic but they won't like you if their father cheated on their mother with you. That's just common sense.

If you arn't then all you can do is hope they come around. They should leave the baby out of it though! That is in poor taste big time. I would deffinalty have something to say about that if I was DH.

Having a baby does not make you a mother.

KittyKat's picture

I know how tough it is.....I could have had wings and a halo and my adult SDs would have hated my guts....and their dad was divorced from their mom (she left HIM for another man) for over a decade.

Hang in there. But, if they are blaming you, you have a tough road ahead, girl.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt

Wicked.Step.Monster's picture

how does your age compare to SD? You say she is friends with your sister?

dixiebell's picture

He was in the process of getting the divorce when we meet. I'm 26, I know there is a big age difference but it doesn't matter to us.

Wicked.Step.Monster's picture

I understand it doesn't matter to you, but it matters to them I'm 100% sure of that. You can probably pretty safely assume they are never going to change with those circumstances. A SM 2 years older than SS? I don't know of anyone that that wouldn't bother.

I'm just being honest.

Angel's picture

hates you because you are so close in age and to her, you took her family away----the clincher was the new baby. She is resentful as hell.

No offense, but I wouldn't like it either. Good luck, maybe time will help.