seperating from dh and recovery
I’ve never ever felt so stressed out as I do now. I’m now 12 days post op hysterectomy and it’s been rough I now have a wound infection well 2 to top it off one in belly button from failed laparoscopic and the edge of my big wound. To say I feel exhausted is an understatement.
Dh came home Friday and with no communication had decided because things were not great between us he wouldn’t put any money into the account wtf!! ( to clarify we have our own seperate accounts then a joint savings and a seperate joint we use for shopping and small bills I pay the bills dh puts money into savings as bills were all in my name when we met we left it like this as saving a house deposit and would change when we moved). So we had a huge row, I was pissed off as I was planning to keep things on the low until I’m recovered and then discuss divorce . Anyway upshot was I split joint account and then transferred money to support myself until I’m back at work this was always the plan anyway. We agreed the marriage is basically over, dh won’t apologise or admit any wrong doing and back to a circular agreement about sds which ends in they are his kids and his prioity and I just want him to cut them off blah blah( no I want you stop being so emeshed with osd and uphold boundaries and stick up and support your wife!!). After his Daye with osd on thurs when he was meant to be looking after or helping me I can’t forgive him and then they had another date yesterday.
To make things worse his sil has been offered a jobworking away and the situation with osd will get worse because then daddy will need to fill the void her dh does.
So dh is in spare room. Bs knows somethings wrong but I haven’t told him yet. I feel like I’m a failure. I feel like my life’s been turned upside down by this man and his selfish entitled offspring. I’ve told dh to start looking for somewhere else to live but i have agreed he can stay until I’m back driving. I don’t have any family to help as they live in the uk. Plus it will be hard organising with friends as most work. Once I can drive again I will be fine.
Did anyone else split from dh over sds and general selfish behaviour? If so how did u cope? Right now I wish I could fast forward a few months so this will be over I feel like a real idiot. I married a cold narcissist less than a year ago