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Update on my weekend "away"

depressed.and.stressed's picture

Well, mum and dad came to pick me up yesterday - but little did I know that SO was going to come home for lunch and stay home ...
I didn't tell him I was planning on going away this weekend, I was going to wait till I was gone then text him so he could ring me when he wasn't busy at work (thought he would appreciate not being told about something as much as I "appreciate" not being told certain things).
So, mum and dad went out to the car with my son and their little daughter. Anyways, he got up me basically straight away and started yelling at me, and following me around the house hounding me, asking me to talk and blah blah blah. I just kept telling him calmly that there was no reason to talk.
So, I went to leave (FOR THE WEEKEND) and he said if I go, its over. So I said fine, I really don't give a f*ck anymore, and took what I had out to the car, and then went back in to get my hospital bags (being a month to go with my pregnancy, and having complications, I didn't want to be unprepared if anything were to happen). He said I couldn't take them, and he took them away from me and hid them.
He first took the phone off me, and before we left he was talking to my dad about everything, telling him this bullshit that I've basically made him choose its either me or his son (that's basically the only part I heard). Anyways, he ended up handing the phone to my dad to give to me (its a contract ph in his name).
Anyways, got to mum and dads and finally decided to turn the thing back on and a message was received from him straight away.
We were texting most part of the night and he called for about 20 minutes to speak to my son and to say goodnight, but whilst we were talking he kept going on with crap, so I hung up on him and told him, its only texting from then on...
He really thinks the only problems I have are with his sl*t of an ex and his kid that he had to her!!! Even though he ruined last weekend for US, he's lied a few times, doesn't tell me certain things, basically hasn't been trying to keep this relationship going - everytime I accidentally forget to tell him something or something as such, and I tell him a little later or he finds out through our shared facebook account or other means, he completely goes off at me.
I DO NOT talk to ANY other guys (excluding my dad/family, and friends partners when I see my friends not to be rude) yet it was ok for him to text a chick 3 days in a row a few months ago (including 3 picture messages), and spontaneous messages to her in the last few months since those 3 days ... Yet, when I confronted him about it, he started getting up me ...
Anyways, he's apparently coming the half hour drive to at least even to just come and see me ... Will be interesting though, especially if he has his kid with him, when he would KNOW his kid would be the last thing I would really want to see right now ...

Anyways, there's just an update so far ...

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Ex4life's picture

Take care of yourself and that baby. If you are having complications stress can bring on early labor so PLEASE be careful. Do not go back until you have things straightened out. If you do he will start to believe that he can push you into doing and believing whatever mess he wants you to. Protect those children as well as yourself.

depressed.and.stressed's picture

Thanks Ex4life! Definitely planning on it! And yes, complications have been all through this pregnancy! Definitely trying to be as careful as I can!
He has promised a few things, and I told him basically that if they don't happen, I'm leaving with both my son and our soon-to-be son!
I think he's finally realized with all this, that I'm not joking, that I have had ENOUGH!
My 2 sons are the only thing that are keeping me going right now ...
I've decided not to go through some specialised councelling for another problem at the moment, because of the stress it was having on my body, and thats stress that the baby certainly doesn't need!
My mum and dad are basically on stand-by for if anything does go wrong and I have a few friends that do live close by, so I have a few escape options if need be Smile