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Well, the weekend went ok ... He came out to mum and dads (half hour away) on the Saturday, unfortunately, he brought with him the only person who I didn't want to see - his brat. Mum was outside and saw them drive in, so she came up the front stairs and knocked on the door - I opened it and mum said someone's here, so I said "I don't want him". The whole morning and basically the day, I didn't talk to him or anything, I didn't find him worth it, I was over everything.
Went out of town further (another 20 minutes drive) to have a look at dads bobcat, dad went with him in his ute, and I went with mum with my sister and my son a little later - we did some things in town first. I even went and brought him a carton of beer so he could have a drink with dad, and knowing how stressful work has been for him the week just gone.
Anyways, I basically didn't talk to him all day, he knew not to press the situation.
We went back to mum and dads back in town and we decided to talk - so we went out the back whilst my mum and dad watched my son and his brat. He promised us councelling, he promised us this and that and he even said that last weekend, he really wanted to make it all up to me and he was going to more-so recognise what I do try to do, and he is going to try and be there more for me.
I told him I'm just over everything, I really want to move out! I can't stand be woken up in the mornings when we have his brat, I can't stand his childs bad behaviour and he not doing anything, I can't stand that I go and do things and try and get a few things done, but if I don't, I'm the one that gets into trouble.
My son and I came home with him and brat that night. I found out that his son had been on my couches, he had completely upended the shoe stand, he had been in my sons room to get my sons toys, he had been at my sons drawing table, he basically had NO discipline by the looks of it ... he went to unlock the door and I was wondering why he was taking so long to come back out to get his brat and get the stuff out of the car. I brought my son in and put him straight to bed, as he was asleep. I walked out into the lounge room and sore everything everywhere ... I wasn't impressed. He came out of his brats room, and I was just shaking my head, he asked me what was wrong, I just said I really wasn't at all surprised, I'm going for a shower, and he went and got all the bags out of the car ...
I was NOT impressed!!! It was mostly my sons stuff strewn ALL THROUGH the lounge room, and most of his crayons from his art table are missing! So is one of his special toys ...
Yesterday/the next day (Sunday), we drove out about a 45 minute drive to dads property. Things were okish out there, apart from his kid being a whiney complaing THING all freakin day, and always trying to take toys that my son was playing with off of him (like freakin usual). But was a reasonably good day.
The brat finally left yesterday afternoon, but like usual, I had to pick up all of his CRAP out of the lounge room and throw it in his freakin room ...

I am giving it another 3 weeks (a month from the screw up last weekend), for things to change, or look like they are going to change for the better and NOT relapse. If things haven't by then, I am going and that is FINAL!!! He knows I've had enough, he knows I'm not going to stick around and jeopardize MORE of my happiness and sanity because of HIS fuck-up with a stupid fucking whore, and resulted in a BRAT and a fucked up situation! I really don't need this crap, nor does my son or our soon-to-be son!!!