My SO and his BM have no custody agreement. It works out pretty well, whenever she wants her, she calls and we're good about it. Her Mom has her a few times a week if we're lucky. Well she had her yesterday, and the day before. I went to go pick the baby up from day care (she's 4), and her teacher said that she hit a girl, and SPIT on a boy! I was raised by a great family as was my SO. We're a young couple but we are very well put together. He owns his own business and I am going to school to be an attorney. BM on the other hand has kept her minimum wage paying job for a few years..but is just white trash. So clearly my SD picked the spitting up from her. Well when we got home, SD, myself, and her Dad sat down to talk about her incidents at school. We noticed scratches all over her face, arms, legs, and body. We just got a new pup so we thought it was from her. But these were fresh. And then we saw these huge bruises. Considering she's 4, we didn't think anything of it, but then we put two and two together..SHE ADMITTED THAT HER MOM SCRATCHES HER, PULLS HER HAIR, HITS HER WITH COOKING UTENSILS .. AND SO ON. We're freaking out. I don't believe in taking a child away from their birth mother..but who does this? I'm sick to my stomach. And her Mom always seems so excited to have her and when she has her she is pretty responsible..but God only knows what's been going on behind closed doors. HELP!