MIL acting like the manager in charge
I don't know why she thinks she can do as she pleases in my home. I guess she thinks of the place as her son's house and her being the manager in charge. She clearly doesnt acknowldege me as the woman of the house. She calls her relatives to come over without telling me and i just hear the door bell ring and i wont even be prepared for guests. Am i wrong to expect her not to ask but to at least tell me who she has asked to come, so I can dress up and look presentable and make certain we have snacks to offer the guests and not to be taken by surprise while still in my pyjamas. She has been ordering my maid around, its my maid, i pay her, i should tell her the chores of the day and not her. MIL didnt even check with me first before coming, at least to let me know she was coming, she just came from another town where she stays with her older son and his wife, she came without a word and found no one at home and waited outside until we got home. Imagine my surprise. How do i tell her to respect and acknowledge me as the woman of the house and inform me about these things and to stop ordering my maid around or telling me when i should bath my baby and when he should have his hair trimmed? Aaaaaaaaaah!!!!!!!!