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I really need some help, guys.

daysleeper's picture

Okay... fifteen days down, six to go. I'm really starting to lose it. Nothing big has really happened, but it's getting to the point where listening to SD6 chewing her food is on my last fucking nerve. SO and I have gotten in a fight every day for the past three days, and we only fight when she's here. I know that he's frustrated because he misses his freedom to go out and I still have mine because I didn't have a kid, but he has a tough time checking his resentment at the door, and so we get into petty arguments about stupid things.

I need your help. I only have six days left. I've made it this far, but - and I am not exaggerating - hearing her breathe in an otherwise quiet room, like right now, fills me with really negative feelings. I've hit the end of my limit of days that I can tolerate being around SD, but I'm in the home stretch. I really need advice on how to stay calm and zen for six more days without saying shitty things to get into fights with SO, and how to deal with SD being around constantly for just six more days. If I can keep a smile on my face and keep everything fine for six more days, then when SD is gone, I can enjoy my birthday and my time with SO without any resentment harbored on either end, his or mine.

Help me, Obi Wan Steptalk. You're my only hope.

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daysleeper's picture

Oh, you know, I think I actually did volunteer for...something... happening tomorrow... yeah, that's the ticket.

daysleeper's picture

He doesn't want her here for this length of time, either, you're right. The difference is that he doesn't want to admit it because he's too scared that that would make him a bad father. Parents, I tell you what.

daysleeper's picture

I just figure that as she gets older, she'll be much easier to disengage from and ignore!

daysleeper's picture

How? How do ou disengage from a five year old? Also, consider that I do help take care of her sometimes.

htchc4190's picture

thats what I would do... ESCAPE!!! go somewhere else whenever SD is around.. Stay out most of the day every day... or get more hours from work...
..spa resort maybe??

daysleeper's picture

I do have work, which is nice, and actually, I asked for Monday off. SD will be in daycare and SO will be at work, so that'll be my day to just relax and get away from it. I've been trying to stay gone every night until after 8 as much as I could this week. The only problem is that the last day is 4th of July; can't make up any excuses not to be around the family then. :/

instantfamily's picture

We also have the skids 24/7 unless and until she takes them for a visitation and last year she skipped one. They're gone now for 6 fantastic weeks and DH and I could NOT be happier! I truly hate being a full-time step because we field all of the bs from skids and from BM.