I am wondering if anyone has any experience with intentionally destructive/defiant children. I ask this because my SD (almost 7) is driving me to my wits end! Let me give you some examples of her recent behavior:
Caught her slamming the door of my new car into the cement wall along side my driveway (taking the paint off the door).
Fakes illness/cough and when/if we dont give her medicine for it she will sneak into the medicine cabinet and attempt to steal it (nothing deadly but vitamins, cough drops, etc.)
Has ZERO manners (talks with mouth full, eats with her hands, wont use napkin, chews on things, etc.)
Talks/fidgets NON STOP...SERIOUSLY never shuts up, cant keep her hands off anything, baby talks, talks back to adults, picks at her clothes until they are ruined, etc.
Just for some qucik background DH and I have 50/50 custody with BM. He and I are very strict with the kids and have a lot of structure in our home but NOTHING seems to work with her. We will punish her or talk to her about her behavior only to have the same thing happen OVER AND OVER again. She understands what she is doing is wrong and she is not ADHD nor does she require behavior meds. Any discipline ideas?