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Submitted by Cover1W on Sat, 04/11/2015 - 11:46pm

So DP has been gone for over a week and I have had SDs for part of this time on my own. And get this: no problems. Maybe a bit of whining here or there around bed time but that's cut off quick and bed time is done. Told DP tonight that they have been great.

I am flying alone with them to meet him tomorrow and have zero worry.

Food for thought for DP.

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sun, 04/12/2015 - 8:23am

Ha! I actually get along fairly well with BM. At least so far there's been no issues except for earning her trust early on. I don't doubt that they complain but they complain about BM sometimes too. I just nod and say something non-committal.

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Submitted by ChokinOnLemonz on Sun, 04/12/2015 - 1:52pm

Yep Tog, that's just what SS12 did to get BMs adoration! And he runs back to DH crying about BMs boyfriend.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sun, 04/12/2015 - 6:36am

I think you answered your own question back on your introductory blog posting.

"they run over DP like crazy and know exactly what they can get away with...basically almost everything. He’s a great dad, but into passive parenting. He’s not a total pushover, but close to it."

And there you go.

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sun, 04/12/2015 - 8:20am

Yes and that was my conundrum. He's working on it now, and discipline from HIM is happening on a regular basis. Which I attribute to the SDs better attitude as well. I'll revise "great dad" status to "very loving" dad. Wink

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Submitted by ChiefGrownup on Sun, 04/12/2015 - 4:38pm

I've had this same experience, Cover. And I still have it with SS13 all the time. But SD15 is too old now and DH has tried a lot of new things with her but it will never come naturally to him the way it comes to me, I've sadly told myself to remember. All that girl ever needed was a firm hand. Too bad neither one of her parents had one.

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Submitted by ChiefGrownup on Mon, 04/13/2015 - 10:47am

In our case, BM wouldn't have her if she "ran" there. BM needs her free time. She'll take sd for an extra weekend every few weeks now that she's old enough to be more interesting (has a boyfriend, can talk about romance) and less trouble (has other things to do besides hang off mom every minute). But no way in hell would she take her more than that. So at our house the firm hand is pretty effective on the rare occasions it's in play.