No more dinner!
As of yesterday I will no longer make dinner when SDs are with us.
DP got a little annoyed last night because I did not make sure SD12 had dinner. We had earlier mutually agreed she was NOT sick after staying home from school for a couple days. She only ate snack food and stayed in bed and used her electronics ... Which DP knows now is a problem but does nothing so I say nothing.
So yesterday I was home first darn it. I asked how she was (tired and cold), took her temp which was normal, gave her more water and told her her dad would check on her when he got home. He is worried about her (as I've said before she has food issues, I think related to extreme picky eating: http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/03/01/pickiness-the-secret-ea...).
DP gets home and checks on her and comes to me and asks if I knew she hadn't eaten all day. (Ignoring the empty chip bowl and plate with Nutella remains next to her.) No, I did not know, she asked me for water and said nothing about hunger. He was clearly upset. Whatever. I told him there were several things she could eat. He ended up fixing her something. And I overheard him telling her she has to stop eating junk food for meals and told her nutrition is important. She said, "But I don't like that stuff." Which is true, she will starve rather than eat it (see link).
DP eventually got a list of foods she wants him to get for her: salmon, smoked salmon, sushi salmon eggs, frozen waffles (white flour), etc. All either expensive or really, processed crap. She does eat corn and cauliflower (if roasted). He proudly told me she DOES eat different things (not really) and he'll go to store to make sure she has them. I said that's fine, go for it.
So with her for options I'm letting DP take over dinners with them. He needs to see, again, why cooking two (or three!!) meals at a time is not feasible.