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porcelian-doll's picture

DH let SD14 makeb dinner because she is taking a culinary class in school and wanted to show us she can cook. She made salmon. She went overboard on the lemon juice so it taste overly sour IMO. She made a side of dry hard white rice to go along with it. I never said a mean word about her cooking I just took a few bites and washed it down with a fake smile plastered on my face.

DH asked me if I was going to finish my meal and I said I wasn't feeling that hungry. I thanked SD for taking the time to cook for us. After dinner DH chewed my ear off saying I made SD feel bad by not eating her food. That I always complain about her not liking what I cook and then I go and act immature like that. I don't even want to talk to him righ now after berating me like a child.

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Flipchip2013's picture

I can see his point, but I think you get a pass being pregnant.

If it bothers you that she doesn't like your food, it stands to reason that DH would jump on you doing the same to her.

Just tell him you feel sick and you're not hungry and to STFU about it. Smile

twopines's picture

He's about a 9 on the Sensitive FeeFees Scale regarding his DD, isn't he? Good grief how very tiring.

Anon2009's picture

I give you credit for handling it politely and her credit for cooking. Maybe she is starting to change in her own way.

boogeymom's picture

Jeez, IMO you did great! I don't think you sounded like a B at all! I agree with one of the above posters, he was probably projecting since he knew it was bad.

whatwasithinkin's picture

See kf he pushed me like that I think I would have gotten cruel privately and told him, I'm pregnant and frankly it sucked. I would love to help and guide her and would do so if she wasn't such a bitch. So I guess its OK if under cooks something a gives me food poisoning I guess I'm suppose to fall all over her with compliments then as well so that YOU feel better?

luchay's picture

LOL - Oh I SOOOOO get where you are coming from on this - sd13 cooked for us on Friday night. Vegetable fritters with wedges (heck at least your sd made something relatively gourmet LOL) and butterscotch rolls for dessert.

Only she used SOOOOOO much flour - it was all you could taste - it was all so dry it was hard to eat - dd7 and I had so much water with our meals it was almost comical, and the fritters were bland - basically pumpkin and potato with a bit of corn but we all smiled politely and attempted to eat as much as we could.

OH on the other hand raved and raved about how great it was, best meal he's had in ages (oh MY was I pissed!) and "THANK you sd-y" over and over. And he kept on over and over asking everyone if they'd loved it and wasn't it great - blah blah blah.

I felt like slapping him around by the end of the meal.

And he did keep giving me aggrieved looks because I wasn't gushing over her cooking as much as him. Please god that he doesn't ask her to make it every week, and what REALLY annoyed me? I make vegie fritters, mine are moist and flavoursome and good and he says his not really into them.

Meh - like your OH he has his special snowflake blinkers on and is super sensitive to any imagined slight against his precious one.

Just tell him that you are pregnant, your tummy wants what it wants when it wants and you will not be forced to eat when you don't feel like something just to appease him. You were polite and he needs to back the F off.

Anne Boleyn's picture

I'm sorry but if she didn't finish a meal you cooked and handled it the exact same way, I bet your husband would've said "She smiled and thanked you. She probably wasn't very hungry!" if you said a word about it. Double standard.

Shaman29's picture

You were polite and complimentary. Your DH is behaving more and more like an idiot. And if mine had done that to me, he'd be missing a testicle or two.