I forgot to update!
YSD17.5 DROVE herself to the library this past Saturday. All alone.
I was in the yard and could hardly believe my eyes, and had to shut myself up from giggling to myself in glee.
See, we had the housecleaners over on Saturday, and it's loud. You know, they are cleaning upstairs, I am doing laundry downstairs and am in and out with yardwork and stuff. No peace and quiet on a GORGEOUS sunny Saturday afternoon.
YSD was lurking about upstairs and asked me, "Where's daddy?" and looking impatient. Me: "I think downstairs...?" Housecleaner comes into room (she's worked for us for years now, at least 4) and says, "Oh my gosh, this is the daughter!?" Yes, it is, DH's youngest. "Oh my goodness she has grown. How old?" 17. "She looks so young! Maybe it's because she's so skinny!" I about died. YSD looked like she just wanted to run. Because she is NOT good at social stuff - note she didn't say ONE word to housecleaner.
Anyway, I go out, YSD leaves (haltingly - obviously not driven a lot), I go in, "Did I see YSD just drive off alone?" DH: Yes. I'm going to ride my bike into town and meet her at the library in a while. I SEE.
So what likely happened is DH running late, YSD getting annoyed, DH saying too bad - there's the keys. I am CERTAIN she didn't volunteer to drive.
I'll tell ya, that trampoline doesn't get used by the time bad weather arrives (she's not touched it since early spring), it's buh-bye.
THE LIBRARY FOR HOURS on a gorgeous day. I made the use of it by myself that's for sure.
I also have to say I've been amscraying lately when YSD is here. I don't hardly interact at all and she and DH seem happier. Me too really. Disengagement is good when it works.