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Couldawouldashoulda's picture

I get this e-mail a few minutes ago....

DH,

SS14 has to stay after school today for homework club he has a paper that he needs to get done. He was not able to call you as you were in court and he said that he couldn’t call SM. I will be getting off work at 1500 so I will pick him up and off work or I can drop him off at your place. Also, he was being very snotty with the teacher and Miss Maggie. I talked to him about his mouth as I heard some of it first hand but Miss Maggie told me about some of the other stuff that he was doing. Just so ya know.

That is all,
BM

It is our week and BM is constantly inserting herself. We have a complicated schedule of pick up from school as we live 30 minutes away. I handle the pick/up drop off thing b/c DH is often unavailable at work. SS is triangulating again, but now I am really so tired of BM inserting herself in DH's time. Am I wrong to say that DH should be the one handling this situation since it is on his time, rather than BM taking this opportunity to insert herself once again?

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Couldawouldashoulda's picture

Super thanx all! Ya, DH has no problem standing up to BM. It is her way of inserting herself and messing things up again. I just need to know if I was over-reacting in my feelings. This is what DH sent:

BM,

No thank you, since it is my time with Cole, I will handle it, including picking him up. Tonight, I will explain to him that he is to call the house - or- leave me a message and I will call him right back when I am out of court , when he is on my time with him. It is way too confusing for pick up changes/ messages/things going on at school to be going through you when it is my time. I am really hoping that in the future, you will let him know that he can call you with changes on your time only.

I will also talk with him about the teacher/Miss Maggie.

DH

Couldawouldashoulda's picture

Thanx Robin, it's still process in work though. SS14 is now in writing apology letters and what he will be doing to correct his behaviors in the future, to his teachers that he will be giving them 1st thing in thing in the morning. :O