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Weekend with the skids on the way...

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Submitted by Coopers_Mommy on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 1:16pm

Why is it, that I begin dreading the skids arrival shortly after they have just left our home to go back to BM? I seriously spend most of their visit counting down the time until they return home to their mother, only to spend the time they are with her, thinking about how soon they will (unfortunately) be coming back over here! It's terrible! LOL But I cannot help myself! It's just that when they are here, it feels like the house is turned upside down, the cupboards are raided, it's extremely loud all day, and overall things just plain suck! They take over every room in the house and are ridiculously lazy! And this is our weekend with the brats so the fun will start by 8 am tomorrow morning. The only happy thought that I have about their return is that bright and early Monday morning school starts again!! Thank God! So next week when we have them Wed. and Thursday, I will barely have to see them! There is a God! haha

So here's to a weekend full of chaos, clock watching, gritting my teeth, pretending not to notice when super chubby SS11 reaches for yet another choclate poptart (all the while thinking, keep eating fatty - there's still food left in the cupboard!)keeping an overly close eye on our 9 month old baby boy while the skids play with him, and finally having a little grey goose/cranberry before bedtime so that I can drift off to sleep quicker and pat myself on the back for making it through another day with the skids! Wink

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 1:21pm

It's funny, I see alot of people posting on here about the impending doom of skids EOW or visitation and I find myself WISHING that we had a dang schedule! My skids just come willy nilly, basically whenever they call and ask to come over, or when BM needs a babysitter. It drives me insane, because if I KNEW when they were coming it would give me time to make plans with friends, family etc. so I could be out of the house!

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Submitted by sonja on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 1:24pm

Lol. Our wkd started today.. I'm not counting the minutes I have left at work to closely. Ha. Know where your coming from. There's only one skid..sd4.. but everything we do and how we do it changes eow. We dread it cause it will come, but thankfully it does go as well. I try to stay positive and count down to Sunday.

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Submitted by Soon-to-be-Step... on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 2:14pm

I lucked out this year. SD goes back to her BM on the Friday before Labor Day, and we won't get her back until Tuesday afternoon. A WHOLE LONG WEEKEND TO OURSELVES!! GASP!!!! Never ever happens!

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Submitted by sonja on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 1:46pm

OMG. Bless you, lol. 1 pushes me over the edge.. I couldn't be you. Loved the post though.. major lol!!

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Submitted by Auteur on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 1:43pm

*raises hand*

Yep. I only enjoyed seeing the backs of their heads getting smaller and smaller as daddykins drove them out of the driveway and down the road back to the Behemoth's house.

Then starting the week they were supposedly to come over (GG NEVER had a set schedule with the Behemoth) I started feeling that dread again.

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Submitted by overit2 on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 2:02pm

YES!! To a point-I think not long ago I sat and ruminated and got mad leading up to a wknd w/SD-somehow now I've been able to mostly put her out of mind until that time.

It's helped that BF doesn't bring her name up much at all nor anything about BM. THAT is helping. I have way too much to worry about with my own bios. I always enjoyed my wknds with them alone-now that we have it set up to have all skids the same wknd to enjoy one for ourselves...I dread them...not because of mine but because SD adds SO much chaos to the house!!

It's louder, there's fighting, more food consumed, arguments, tension-on and on. I know I'll see her this wknd but somehow I'm managing to NOT stress before I have to-otherwise it RUINS everything for me.

It's like I hit ctrl-alt-delete once she leaves Sundays.

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Submitted by momSterto3abd3 on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 2:02pm

^^^ LOL! "Behemoth" Love this word! I also like the "The bovine beezee" Fellow SPs, you all make me smile..

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Submitted by Auteur on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 2:09pm

Well she IS six foot tall and hovers around 250 (and she just turned 40 in March. . .just WAIT until MENOPAUSE kicks in!!) bwa ha ha

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Submitted by Soon-to-be-Step... on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 2:09pm

LOL. I totally relate!!! Try an every 4 days rotation Sad I don't so much mind SD during the week, because I only have to deal with her from 5:30-8:30, but when I know we will have her for an entire weekend, I definitely dread it. My time off is just that TIME OFF and when SD is there it is NOT relaxing. We don't get any privacy and are expected to be 24/7 playmates...games, sports, pool, beach, bike rides, REPEAT. I guess you new schedule isn't great because you will have SD for a longer period of time, BUT you will also have a whole week off in between.

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Submitted by momSterto3abd3 on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 2:13pm

Auteur: then Behemoth becomes Yeti, Sasquatch or Gooney Goo-Goo!
LMBO!! You're killing ME!!! Biggrin

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Submitted by Auteur on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 2:42pm

Sasquatch *was* my name for the Behemoth's mother, a 300+ lb woman at six feet tall as well.

My original name for the Behemoth was a combination between "Giraffe" and "Hippo"

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Submitted by Coopers_Mommy on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 2:49pm

I'm glad I'm not alone with these feelings! While it is helpful to have a set schedule DaizyDuke, it's also kind of like knowing the exact date and time you are going to die...I mean, it would be kind of nice to know so that you are able to plan accordingly but at the same time you are left to dread what is coming. LOL Although, I completely understand your pain with not having a court ordered schedule b/c before a few months ago I had to deal with the same thing. The skids were always with us EOW but that was the only thing that was planned - the skids would call whenever they felt like it and DisneyDad would go get them. God I hated those days for sure. Now, they don't ask to vary from the schedule b/c I always make sure to reinforce the fact that it was court ordered so it can't be changed Wink Unfortunately unless my SO wants to pay an absolutely obscene amount of money to his ex pig aka BM we are stuck with the 50/50 split. But I should add in there that my SO is an absolutely awesome Dad who has always taken care of his children, paid miss piggy (w/NO court order for CS for the 7 years that they have been divorced)way too much money out of the kindness of his heart - eventhough he knew she didn't use a dime of it on the boys, paid for everything and i mean everything that his boys needed/wanted and all he wanted in return was to be able to see his boys whenever he wanted to. Miss Piggy hates me and the fact that I now have an infant son with her ex so she took him to court for child support and custody! It was a total joke, and the judge even had to remark about the fact that there has been no order in 7 years - so it seems a little strange now! I could go on and on about my feelings towards her but I'm getting off track... Point in case is, while I miss the days when I didn't have to see the skids in a planned out way - I'm thankful that they can't just pop over at Dad's anytime they feel like it. However, it does feel like they are ALWAYS here now though - This was our long week with them: Monday 8 am - Wednesday 12 pm, Friday 8 am - Monday 8 am (only b/c there is school) otherwise they would stay at our house until sometime in the afternoon! Next week I am stuck with them on Wednesday after school around 4pm i guess until they leave Friday. And since it will be a holiday weekend, they will prob. be there until the afternoon. I've pretty much resigned myself to the fact that until these 2 kids become adults and move away I will be stuck dreading them. Then I read some of the posts about people with adult skids and I realize that there are even worse things awaiting me! LOL A box of wine does sound quite lovely about now..... Dirol
And just an FYI the BM in my life is a 39 year old, non-educated, alcoholic, non-working, thinks her ass (which is well on it's way to 250lbs.)is a gold mine, money hungry, living off CS, greedy *itch! And what really pisses her off is that I am 8 years younger than her, have my BA, had a good job b/f I left to be a full time mommy, can support myself, and am back down into a size 2 not quite 9 months after having my son. Yeah, life is good!

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Submitted by stepmom916 on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 3:30pm

Thanks so much for this post! I am laughing so hard because this is how I feel as well. It is nice to know we are not alone. The wine is already chillin' in the cooler. Wishes to all for a fast weekend. Blum 3

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Submitted by alwaysanxious on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 3:31pm

I've been dreading it too. problem is I don't know if I have to yet. technically its EOW, but SS12 and SD15 decide by thurs or friday each week if they want to come or not. Talk about not being able to make plans with SO.

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Submitted by Goincrazy40 on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 3:40pm

AHHH, yes, the weekly dread fest.

Tonight I am going to my moms when they all arrive.

Tomorrow, their last day here before school starts next week: I work from home but have out of the office plans to see a customer.

Saturday morning - they LEAVE!

I love my "off weekend." Now to just hope they don't find some reason to come over anyway! }:)

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Submitted by marty15 on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 7:32pm

I feel the same same same way. Count down til they leave... dread the return. MOURN the return, it's like someone died!
But I don't start dreading their return until the day before. I SOOOOOOOOOOOO get exactly how you feel.

I've gotten better at putting them mostly out of my head until they are almost due back. Soon as they leave, I go around the house picking up their crap and I dump it just inside their rooms and then "this house is a-clear".

I laughed at the chocolate pop tart comment. I have two chubby skids and one of them is OBSESSED with dessert... every night it's "when is dessert?" "what are we having for dessert" "is it dessert time yet?" "can i put sugar on top of my chocolate syrup on my ice cream?" "why don't we ever get cool whip?" etc etc etc. All I can think is honey you don't need those extra calories but of couse I keep my yap shut! Oh and she constantly calls the cat "fatty tummy". It's pretty ironic.

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Submitted by alwaysanxious on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 8:23pm

SO said that to me a few weeks ago "you count the days until they leave"

I just gave the "well yeah" look at left it go.

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Submitted by Coopers_Mommy on Fri, 08/26/2011 - 8:07am

It's reassuring to know that so many others out there have the same feeling of being stuck on the Titanic and being screwed out of a lifejacket when thinking about the arrival of the skids. I thought it was just me! Thank you everyone for your comments on this post. When BM dropped off the rats - and no i didn't forget the b - at 8:20 am this morning that same old "why do you have to be stuck here for the weekend" feeling came over me. And it always seems like our weekends together fall on a weekend where SO and I have been invited to do something - so of course we don't. Quality time with Thing 1 and Thing 2 is Disney Dad's idea of a great weekend! LOL Meanwhile I try my hardest to spend my entire day doting over our baby boy and knowing that when I put him to bed at 9pm I can go as well Smile So I just wanted to say thanks again all, and good luck to all of you stuck with the skids this weekend. May it go quickly and quietly!!