DH and I handled the situation with BM's mom yesterday. First, he sat the SDs down and explained to them that their GBM was wrong. He also explained that it wasn't their fault, but that he is going to cut her out of the picture for a while. The SDs tried to argue with him about it. They told him that the knew she was wrong and that they weren't going to do what she told them. DH was firm that it wasn't their fault and that he would handle the situation.

GBM tried calling yesterday. DH answered the phone and calmly told her that she is no longer welcome to call our house. He told her that he overheard what she said. He also told her that if she tries to pick the kids up without our permission, he will call the cops b/c it is kidnapping. She started to get upset, but DH hung up the phone.

So next, we have BM calling us. DH told BM what happened and that he wasn't tolerating it. BM claims that her mom doesn't know what she is doing. DH explained to BM that he was going to do what was best for the SDs. She got upset and said, "I have never done that to you." Really BM??? DH went long stretches without talking to his kids. And, she completely banned his mom from having a relationship with them b/c she was mad that CPS was involved.

DH just reiterated that he wasn't allowing any more calls. He reminded her that if she started telling the girls inappropriate things that the judge would limit her phone calls. She sputtered and raged at him for a few more minutes before talking to the SDs.

The funny thing is she kept trying to get them to take the phone off speakerphone. DH and I didn't say a word to them. They refused. She was really watching what she said.

On a side note, three more of BM's relatives have tried adding DH on FB...