College is Looming on the Horizon, I am falling further down the Rabbit Hole...
Winona SD18, she has just signed up for Summer and Fall classes, and SO is expected to pay for half. Winona has been asking for the money, this weekend. However, her report card came in Friday and guess what? She got 2 F's a D- a C and an A+. I was flabbergasted that she appears so eager for college.
This is a girl that cannot get up and awake by herself, and needs dadee to yell at her to get up and get ready for school. One of her failures is in psychology, and that's what she is saying she wants to get a degree in. It is my opinion that she should take a break from school, get her ducks in a row and get a job. Get her drivers license. Pay for her own stuff like insurance and gas, etc, not try taking classes that she will more than likely not do well in and waste SO's hard-earned cash.
But that's me, and that's my opinion. BM was going to take her to Vegas and luckily saw a little stream of sense and cancelled the trip saying that "college is first". Winona is not appreciating that her parents are paying for her education. Her response is "that really sucks, I wanted to go to Vegas".
Her sense of entitlement grows, apparently, unchecked.
SO is getting more and more frustrated, seeing her report card. Although I know it hurts him, and he wants her to succeed, he understands that she is basically a lazy, lying, unmotivated, selfish basket case of a person. He doesn't know what to do about it, so he backs off and shuts down. I suggested that he get tougher on her, give her the structure that she needs, see what he can make of her, after leaving her to her own devices for so long.
And the kicker of my weekend - Winona, after being choked and slapped by her mother about 3 weeks ago, showed me a card with a drawing of Alice in Wonderland - quite good actually - on paper that I had given her sister to use. She had made it for her mothers birthday. Not a big thing, really, just made me feel weird. Like no matter what BM does, she will still get to take home her engraved Mother of the Year Award. Simply by giving birth.
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I wouldn't take that bet,
I wouldn't take that bet, because youd win the house. She has already spent that money, or most of it. And is counting on SO to pay for half the college courses. There was a car payment, and a laptop for Munchkin SD10, to play her video games on, and of course BM needed a new laptop too.
}:)
So she can text and email to all her online male admirers. To set up meeting times, while her boyfriend sits at home.
It's the same way with BioHo
It's the same way with BioHo and her kids. She sucks, but she gets a pass because she pooped them out. Then again...
SD24 - who claims to hate BioHo - wouldn't have a free babysitter if she shunned 'Ho.
SD20 - who claims to hate BioHo - wouldn't have a place to live if she shunned 'Ho.
Munchkin and BM get along
Munchkin and BM get along fabulously. SD18 Winona and her clash - because they are so alike in personality.
POPPED, not POOPED!! Then
POPPED, not POOPED!! Then again...
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You know - I read that and
You know - I read that and did not miss a beat. It works for me!!!! She pooped them out!!!
:jawdrop:
Such a miraculous birth, sort of like "The Shining" meets immaculate conception. Where they get pooped out and yell "here's Johnny!" (if a boy) or "here's Jenny!" (if a girl).
With BioHo, anything is
With BioHo, anything is possible!!
That's the wonky part. He is
That's the wonky part. He is obtaining a status on Wednesday. The thing said "call teacher", but no one is calling teacher(s). SUPPOSEDLY, according to our very honest truth-telling Winona she has more credits than she needs. But no one is keeping track. BM did not want to invade privacy and did not want to open envelope!
LOL.
Shock. Surprise.
If it's community college she
If it's community college she won't need either of those. But I do wonder how she'll graduate with all those Fs.
It is a local community
It is a local community college. So that's the question that I had also. Her father doesn't really know how she does it - it is a city where English is a second language, so I think she "squeaks through" somehow. Once, last year, a teacher made a mistake, or something and the grade changed from an F to a B...something big.
Is DH obligated to pay for
Is DH obligated to pay for college? Are you in a state where parents are given orders to provide for college?
If DH is not obligated, he should respond to Winona's request for money that he needs to see maturity and that she will apply herself. So he needs to see where she will excel at something first, such as good, reliable work experience, or working on a cruise line where you have to work very very hard every day of the week.
My DS did not want to apply himself until he had some time working in a produce section of a major grocery chain and said no way in hell would that be the rest of his life.
Many kids, even those who graduate high school with good grades, are not ready to jump right into college. DH might as well flush money down the toilet, and poor grades will go on her transcript for all time. If Winona wants to go into psychology, advanced degrees are necessary, so she better be sure what goes on her transcript is something she won't later regret.
My DS has one more semester until he graduates, is now doing fantastic, but has a lot of stress about how poor he did his first year at another university impacting his changes of getting into grad school. And it might.