Teachers nice way of saying your kid sucks
I was a teacher & someone on this forum had asked me a while back what kind of phrases teachers use to say negative things with a positive spin. I gave some examples that I had used but I taught preK up to 1st grade. It's different than 10 year olds.
Last year SS10 was in 4th grade. I went to conferences and his teacher talked about how great it is that he participates in class but he needs to learn to raise his hand, not shout out during class, not talk so much during class and try not to be so funny/class clown/center of attention. Yep this is SS10...hes so funny and cute. Let's encourage him to be an obnoxious asshole.
This year Im disengaged so I didnt go to conferences since DH walks out of the school beaming with pride over the one positive to every 5 negative things said about his kids. He doesnt hear the "your kid being absent makes my day better" tone the teacher had. More like did you hear how funny he thinks SS10 is? Ya he's a real treat.
He came home from conferences this year for SS12, 6th grade (with a 504 plan) and SS10, 5th grade (with an IEP), beaming with pride again. I just ran into some paperwork for SS10 that has check marks for
✔ concerned about classroom behavior
✔ needs to improve listening skills
And a note at the bottom stating "Good sense of humor but needs to know appropriate times to exhibit it. Impulsively talks out". He also is at the 35th-43rd% in standardized testing. Why does DH keep saying how great they are doing? And this is the kid who doesnt have ADHD(and ASD & SPD undiagnosed)
I guess its our fault as teachers for softening the blow. It's hard to say YOUR KID SUCKS to a parent. Parents are very defensive. DH is very defensive. He would not allow SS12 to be diagnosed with anything beyond ADHD which means he didnt get the treatments, therapies or services he needed and deserved for sensory issues and he's on the low end of the spectum(my opinion as a teacher).
Part of me wants to not disengage to help these kids but naaahh. They have improved since I instated rules about less screen time and more time for books and brain games but since Ive disengaged a lot of that has been lost.
Oh well Ill be divorced before they're adults anyways.