Please tell me to be nice and considerate of SD21s feelings but she is acting like a complete asshole.  BM lied to SD, stole from SD and fraudulently used SDs bank account at age 17 and the account was closed by the bank.  I think she forged SDs signature, not sure because the bank wouldn't talk to DH since he was not on the account and you can never get the truth from BM or SD who defends that asshole but didn't talk to BM much for a couple years due to the betrayal she felt.  The stealing and bank fraud happened shortly after she left SD and the 3 younger siblings on the street(ages 17, 14, 9 and 8 at the time).  She drove off in a moving van with the boyfriend while DH picked them and their belongings off the street.  They all felt betrayed and abandoned but don't worry all is forgiven and BM and the children have beyond repaired their relationship.  We now worship BM.

Back to SD21.  In 2016 when the bad stuff with BM happened, SD17-18 at the time used me for money and to manipulate DH when she wanted something.  Once she had a waitressing job making good money and the car she wanted, she threw me out like the trash.  This past year she has taken to calling BM Mommy and she is the best!  DH who picked her up off the street and did everythig for her was also thrown out like the trash recently.  SD now hangs out with her almost 40 year old aunt who blatently cheats on her husband and gets drunk every day.  While the 2 of them were drunk last night they were texting BM saying we want you to get back with DH and BM said that's not going to happen.  I saw this because I see text messages on DHs old ipod.  I also saw that DH will be cosigning for $100,000+ in student loans for SD and quickly put a stop to that.  SD signed a lease behind DHs back for $950 a month apartment at school(which DH and BM agree she wont finish)  DH now will be signing only for the $10.000 she need for tuition and she is on her own for the apartment.  He never would have let her do that so she got her grandfather to cosign and she tought DH would pay.  NOPE not when the wicked step mommy steps in.  DH will no longer be cosigning for loans at almost 12% interest except for the cost of tuition.  She will be paying her $950 rent, $150 iphone, $350 car + alcohol and gas and groceries. 

Im so furious with SD and my husband's sister who think DH and BM should get back together that I can't go to a family party on Friday, the first get together since the quarantine.  Im sorry that SD is sad that her parents are remarried buy as far as the Aunt goes, I refuse to be around that drunk ass 40 year old cheating immature sister in law.  She always gives me kisses and says love you.  Ya fuck you would be my response. At least I'll have the house to myself on Friday while everyone goes to the family party.