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Chmmy's picture

Anyone watch Yellowstone? Is Beth Dutton not the epitome of a mini wife? Don't get me wrong, I love her character. Also when she refers to her 'daddy's' love interest,  she doesn't use her name, Beth refers to the woman as 'her'...same as my adult SDs often refer to me.

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Survivingstephell's picture

I think she is bat shit crazy.  It's probably a good thing she can't have kids.  She's an unchecked violent woman.  

shamds's picture

Had slept over and she became full on territorial and her dad didn't know how to react and eventually told her to calm down.

my ss wouldn't even call my name or say stepmum, he'd just start talking and one time he called me the malay world for old aunty, i was 29 at the time. Oh boy did his cousins give him grief over the disrespect because as malaysians, there is a certain basic etiquette and manners of how you address people.

my husband refused to accept that batchit crazy narc exwife could have an affair with a married man whilst they were married, have that man leave his wife to marry her days after divorce was finalised whilst she played poor single mother bs to everyone and the courts, then tell all 3 kids they had a new daddy and he was addressed as daddy.

my husband didn't agree since we had 2 kids together (skids half siblings) that i was gonna be addressed disrespectfully. So hubby kept referring to me as mummy because their bio mum is called mum in malay so there is differentiation between the 2 who they are addressing. If bio mum and stepdad don't have any kids of that marriage together, can have an affair and have skids call affair stepdad as dad, hubby was making  sure they addressed me the same and more so considering they have half sibling ss a result of our marriage

there is a show on Netflix called selling beverly hills, the owner married a woman who had a daughter who was already 5, the owner has always treated her as his daughter and not stepdaughter because he raised her and not her bio dad. I think bio dad abandoned her or wasn't in the picture and she has always looked at him as her dad and not stepdad.
 

Even then she said at times, she's afraid to talk to him directly about hard and difficult things and vents this to her half sister and she understands where she is coming from

Rags's picture

I raised my SS-30 as my own.  His mom and I married the week before he turned 2yo.  I was the first person SS called Dad(dy).  He has always known the Spermidiot but he has always recognized that I am his Dad.  The SpermDad has always been referenced by SS as Dad(dy) First Name.

Like your DH has stipulated that his failed family children refer to you respectfully, my DW has done the same with her expectations that SS refer to me respecfully. 
 

We (you and I) are fortunate to have spouses who do not tolerate disrespect by their children toward their mate.

shamds's picture

More so when his 2 daughters reconnected after cutting off contact fot 5.5 yrs. 

hubby agreed that our kids shouldn't be exposed to half sibling not acknowledging my role as his wife and mother of their half siblings like oiii or aunty when i'm not an aunty
 

hubby wouldn't stand for the hypocrisy if exwife could have an affair and force kids to call stepdad as daddy (followed by his first name in malay) despite them cutting off contact with their kids and abandoning them as much as possible, then at the very minimum they are should call me mummy in English as they clearly call their mum in their native tongue another name.

 
hubby when referring to me to ss just kept saying mummy, ss had no choice but to call me that and my inlaws certainly wouldn't stand for him referring to me as anything else as it's disrespectful in their culture to even call you by first name

ss knows his sisters and bio mum abandoned him and maintain a fake relationship whilst pur kids genuinely acknowledge and see him as their brother, they know he has a different mum who is mean and crazy and disowned him but their dads are the same. I'm not sugarcoating shit for my kids about hubbys exwife. I refuse to elaborate and give a false sense of truth to my kids so hubbys exwife is painted like the saint she clearly isn't. 
 

they need to know the facts, what horrible things their half sisters have said about their dad then make a decision when older whether they want a relationship with people like that

thinkthrice's picture

For a stepDAD to encounter mini spouse syndrome coming from the BM's bios.  Generally speaking, the BM sees to it that stepdad gets her stamp of approval on his forehead for her kids to see.

SDD (The Animal Torturer, st the time 9 yrs old) called me "woman!" in a very derogatory tone.   Most likely because I was referred to as "that woman" at the Girhippo's house.

She actually threw rocks at me and other beach patrons at a visitation outing!

I called her on it (out of earshot of daaaaddddeeeee, of course) at the time, Chef was infused with guilty daddy syndrome and his "angels" ( yeah he called them that despite their being the exact opposite) could do no wrong. 

Rags's picture

Did  you entend to call SD an STD? Which would be entirely appropriate considering what that toxic POS Skid has manifested in your life.

shamds's picture

Stepdads marriage. Sd has authority far more superior to bio dad because of all the pas crap bio mum pulled on them. Even though they abandoned and left sd's fend for themselves as young adults or teens when it suited them.

however me and hubby were already married about 3.5 yrs when sd's both decided to reconnect with hubby after disappearing and cutting off all contact over 5.5 yrs plus. They somehow thought they had superiority over me and hubby, that they dictated what happened with our minor kids who were toddlers. 2nd 3rd visit in, they believed they could be mummies to my kids feeding them, undressing them when we'd barely spent 2-3 hrs with them and most of that time was spent hearing them rant on all kinds of crap about biomum and stepdad.

sd's tried desperately to compete for aloha female status and they were subtle control digs and attempts. My husband didn't notice it because he zoned out till i told him by the third visit that I wasn't tolerating this any longer or exposing myself and our 2 young kids to this any longer. 
 

it took my husband another 1.5 yrs to finally find the balls and sit down with his eldest and lay down the law. She sulked and now if she contacts daddy there is no hey dad. Its just an abrupt message and picture saying she is at blah blah blah and then dead silence for rest of the year

CajunMom's picture

and I mean a whole new level of crazy. I don't see it as mini- wife, though. Lots of dynamics in that story line, including a character that could "destroy" the family fortune because her ideals are exact opposite of the Dutton's. Protecting the fortune. <eye roll>

I had a mini wife. Her main goal (when she was allowed around me) was to remind me that I was not FIRST. She was. I think she actually enjoyed those years of tormenting me. But look where she is now. Last place. LOL

CLove's picture

While I love her character when shes fawning over rip or ripping into someone who deserves it, I do not enjoy watching her tear apart other women and especially women that daddio is knocking boots with.

SD23 Feral Forger was a mini wife - I recognise that now as I have learned more and looking back to when I first came onto the scene. Ive heard from BOTH husband and SD16 Power Sulk that she was glad when toxic troll moved out so she could rule the household. Husband said before I came in, she did chores and she cleaned. She was very demanding and she was very bossy to her younger sister. If I asked her to please put her dishes in the sink, she would order her sister to do it right after within earshot.

And then recently calling me and demanding to speak to her dad, because she couldnt reach him on his phone (that should have been telling but I wanted to hear it from her what was the deal) and then telling me (not asking and no apologies) that she needed to move in and "its dads house, and I grew up there"...

Forget about her being crazy and manipulative and all that entails, she was definitely a super entitled mini wife.

Im just glad I got the chance to speak the truth directly so there was no dancing around it any longer.

floralsm's picture

Don't read my comment if you haven't seen Yellowstone and want to watch it. I think the scene in the kitchen when she finds out who her dad was sleeping with was a definite wtf moment. She is very unhinged and crazy though so that reaction is definitely a typical 'Beth' blow up, but yeah it's definitely a mini wife syndrome of some sort especially as she feels personally responsible of her mothers death. Still no excuse though, Beth is just crazy and her behaviour is so out of control. It's funny seeing how her Dad tries to pull her back in line though and she still just walks all over him with her 'Daddy' comments. Ugh it's all so cringe for me. I'm so glad the skids don't call DH that anymore. 

CajunMom's picture

I'm not sure I remember  this right...but didn't the Dad blame her for her mom's death early in the series?? 

floralsm's picture

Yep he did tell her that after she did something that upset him I'm pretty sure.