BMs new apartment is visible from our backyard
I haven't blogged in quite some time but this warrants a blog. Seven+ years ago, BM left four VERY DAMAGED kids on the street(literally) for my husband to pick up along with their belongings(ages 17, 14, 9 and 8 at the time). She drive off into the sunset with her boyfriend, now husband and waved goodbye to her crying children. She stole $$$ from SDs bank account(joint account since SD was a minor) to fund the move using the excuse, "I needed it." Fast forward 7+ years. The fabulous husband she dumped her kids for has a drinking problem, possibly abusive and she decided to leave. She moved in the apartment complex BEHIND OUR HOUSE. She was an hour and half away so she wasn't around much over the years. NOW she wants to move close and help with the kids. Sorry bitch..we got this. Where were you for all the years of struggling. They needed rides, dinner, picked up from school and activities, homework help...oh and 18 months of remote learning which I was home for(torture). Maybe the teenage girls just needed a mother, tampon help, SD had period/gyn problems. The kids are now 24, 21, 16 and 15. We're good!! Well of course the kids go running back to mom as fast as they can. She has no remorse and they 'forget' what she did. Every time she hurt them, instead of getting angry with her, they made excuses for her, protected her, and defended her. It was much easier to HATE me, the scapegoat/stepmom. Sd21 is delusional. The things she says about mom... It's like the girl who has a boy who uses her for sex and she gets excited when he texts after midnite. Oh look he txted me!!(booty call). If mom farts her way she gets excited. Look what mom did for me! SD was downright nasty to my saintly MIL who took them in when mother left them. She did everything for them that a mom should do and SD resented her. Once I took over when we got married, then she resented me. I didn't realize at the time that it hurt too much to be mad at mom so she chose to hate me. It hurt that I was doing all the things she wanted her mom to do. Well mommy is back for now. My DH and I are waiting for her to do something horrible so we can pick up the pieces.
We're trying to be cautiously optimistic that she has changed her lying, manipulative, stealing, crazy ass ways. She steals from family even when she had money. Now she is going to be dead broke again paying her own bills...let the thievery begin. While I was typing this YSS came home and 'borrowed' a screwdriver. I wonder how many other things are going to get borrowed from this house and end up at her place. Wish us luck
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You don't deserve this
I've followed your blogs and you have done a wonderful job with those kids. You are a person who can look in the mirror and be proud of what you've done.
I know that feeling when the kids crave any contact with a mom who has abandoned them. It is so maddening when they can't acknowledge who is there every day raising them. Mother's Day used to drive me crazy with all the efforts to make Mom happy. Why couldn't they see? As you said, it hurt too much to hate her so they hated me.
I finally realized that if I raised these kids to hate their mother, I wasn't doing a good job. That somehow helped me tolerate it. Flash forward and as adults (now 62, 60 and 57) they all had to deal with her instability themselves. They could form their own opinions. When she died, they all loved her but each had had to experience her volatility as adults.
Good to see you again, Chmmy!
Good to see you again, Chmmy! How's the book coming along?
Not good. It was too
Not good. It was too emotionally draining. I love writing but it was too much. I don't even blog much. My life was consumed with my step life. I'm more than a step mom. I have lots of hobbies. I'm working again. I babysit my beautiful niece. There is more to me than my problems at home
You always knew this could
Possibly happen. There always a link with the bio mother. We all know this was always a possibility, especially at big life events, High school and college and graduation... Wedding,, birth or GK.
We alwars knew this was the thanks we would get. Then again moving next to you is a bit much. Do not let BM Control your home.
Oh noooooo. (((HUGS)))
Oh noooooo.
(((HUGS)))
Oooooh. I would have fun with BM living so close.
Come up with some good stuff to drive her insane and bare her ass!!!
*diablo*