SS9 Nightmares of Death
SS9 has been here for 4 days. Last night, we watched Disney's Haunted Mansion, the 2003 PG movie with Eddie Murphy, about a curse on the mansion that Eddie Murphy and his family have to break, reuniting the ghost owner with his ghost true love. SS seemed to really enjoy it and he was the one who requested we watch it.
DH left for work this morning. I checked on SS and asked him if he had any nightmares from the movie last night. He said "Yes." I asked him what his nightmare was about. He said he had a nightmare that DH was trying to hurt him. I asked SS to elaborate. He said that he had a nightmare that DH hired a hitman to kill him. I was shocked. I asked SS if he believes that DH would hurt him, he just shrugged. I asked SS if anyone has told him that DH would hurt him. He said "No." I assured SS that DH and I would never do anything to hurt SS or put him in danger.
I let DH know. DH is so upset that SS would even question whether DH would hurt him or not. I believe BM and GF are PASing, making SS believe we are dangerous or a threat to him. It seems too coincidental with BM's brother's comment to SS9 at spring break pick up, "Did you bring perfume covered stuffed animal to protect you?" DH and I are going to continue to document these trends, so if we are falsely accused of abuse in the future, we have documentation showing all these weird comments and behaviors.
This is the kind of stuff that makes me detach from SS9. This is what makes me wish we had no contact and could just be done with the PAS crap. When it is so incredibly obvious that we are 2nd in his life and BM and GF are #1 and the priority. This kid literally questions if we would hurt him intentionally. We have only ever showered this kid with love and support. We have spent our entire relationship and tens of thousands of dollars fighting for this damn kid. He has been talking about home nonstop with "My Moms" this and "My Moms" that. SS9 has been super snarky today since we have nothing fun planned and the fun pool party weekend is over. DH and I agree that we need to let SS9 be bored and not try to make everything fun all the time. He needs to have normalcy here. We can't only be the fun vacation house. Currently, SS is pouting and sitting in a chair with nothing to do while I'm working. SS better find something to entertain himself or he is in for a long two weeks.