Knew This Would Happen Pt. 2
I posted a blog last weekend about a fight we had with BM. BM is trying to withhold and interfere with summer visitation with SS9.
DH received an email tonight from SS' football league that SS' tryout is next week, which is well before DH's parenting time which means that DH will have SS for two two week blocks as originally scheduled with no interference from BM.
DH emailed BM to beat her to the punch and allow him to confirm the schedule without allowing room for manipulation or changes. BM agreed but...
BM informed DH that SS9 is going to be missing a large chunk of pre-season conditioning to be with DH this summer. She tried to say that SS is very upset about it (DH knows he is not). BM said that visitation will significantly set back SS' football abilities compared to his peers. BM then gave DH a "warning" that SS' football obligations are only going to increase starting next summer and that BM and DH "as his parents, are going to have to get 'creative' to find a solution to balance visitation with football obligations."
Ladies and Gentlemen, this is the "warning" DH and I knew was coming. BM is warning DH that visitation will be limited in years to come and/or that DH will have to put in a ton of work (at BM's demand) to make summer visitation work. DH believes BM is going to start demanding out of state visitation with SS in BM's state. This has been BM's MO all along. Even the judge refused to order out of state visitation, but BM has been hell bent for years on making that happen. This is BM's way to set the PAS groundwork to get DH to 0 visitation or to make DH submit/cave to her again just so DH can maintain contact with SS. Outside of summer, we only see SS for alternating holiday breaks so if we eliminate summer, we will have 2 weeks per year.
DH and I are done. We are not going back to court since the system has failed us terribly up until this point and BM will not agree in mediation so it is a waste of time. I dont think we have much time with SS left and I don't know how to help and protect SS from the emotional abuse/PAS he experiences from BM. This kid is only 9! I feel like every phone call we have with SS, he is always just so sad and DH and I can't make it better for him.