SD Grad Dinner
We went to dinner with immediate family for SD's graduation as we are not having a party b/c I refused to plan one. Earlier in the week DH's mom gave us a check and told us to pay for dinner with that money and whatever was left over to give it to SD. After dinner as the check comes for dinner, DH's mom slips DH her credit card. He said what is this? You already gave me money for dinner. She said no I didn't (winking). So DH goes around the table and says "you gave me $500 and told me to pay for the dinner and what was left over SD gets it" She replied that is your money to do what you see fit but don't tell your stepdad. DH's mom is literally hiding how much money she is giving to SD from her husband! DH's mother is the biggest enabler of SD, she thinks SD walks on water and does no wrong. Her husband sees through it and sees what a trainwreck she is. He doesn't agree with what DH's mother does. Today I told DH I think we should give his mom the money back and he said "no that's for SD, mom wants us to give it to SD when she needs it." DH's mom already spent over $1,000 on prom for SD, now she paid for graduation dinner, gave her $100 cash last night and now wants to give her another $500 but to hide it from her husband?
From my previous blog DH wanted us to give SD $500 cash gift for her graduation. Instead he bought her a $160 concert ticket and paid a couple hundred dollars toward necessary repairs to her vehicle. Now he plans to give her an additional $500 when the time is right? What did she do to deserve this? Treat her family horribly? Tell us that she couldn't live one more day under our roof and moved out on her 18th bday? Failed 12th grade? In DH's mom's words "graduated by the skin of her teeth". Been fired from 8 jobs in 2 years?
Maybe I'm so bitter toward SD that I can't see giving her this much. Maybe I'm bitter that DH's mom doesn't treat BD (DH & I's daughter together the same). Yes she is young and doesn't understand but for Easter SD got $100 and BD got an egg with $1. Every two weeks DH's mom takes SD for a mani & pedi. DH's mom is good to BD but definitely treats SD much better.