Worthless waste of a life
Heads up, it's pretty long. My boyfriend of 2 years and my 16 year old son hate each other. No surprise there. The boyfriend is pretty strict, in fact he is a perfectionist-where I am not. I definitely have "single mom guilt". At 16 my son is basically a good kid. A bit lazy? Of course. A bit manipulated and self centered? Yes. But he doesn't do drugs, run with a bad crowd, or even be disrespectful to anyone but my boyfriend. Back story: I wanted my boyfriend to be able to correct my son if needed. The problem is the way he does it. He completely demoralizes him, calls him stupid, and treats him like an child. He can't seem to teach without giving a 2 hour lecture about how right he is. My son has lost respect for him. A few weeks ago my son had to clean his bathroom. We are trying to sell my house and there was a showing. My son failed to scrub his toilet to the specifications of the boyfriend. Needless to say words were spoken. Did my son catch an attitude? Probably. I was not there. However my boyfriend called him a worthless waste of life.
I corrected my son first. Bottom line? My boyfriend was the adult. He was asked to do something. It should have been done. But I told my boyfriend that he needed to be the adult. Telling a kid they are a worthless waste of a life is wrong. Period. It should not happen. Boyfriend refuses to admit he was even slightly at fault. He insists anyone would agree. So, what is the general consensus? Incidentally, this isn't the first time this argument has happened. I've expressed my concerns previously about calling him stupid, etc.
On Mother's Day he felt my son should have spent more time with me. My son had spent the morning with me then went to pick my mom. Came back, we had dinner and he asked if he could play his video games. I said he could, my plan was to watch little women with my mom so I was fine with him playing a game. My boyfriend decided my son was wrong. Pitched a fit, me telling him I gave him permission, but he didn't care. He felt my son was wrong. He waited until I took my mom home then "punished" my son but turning off the internet. Comments?