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Bradymom's picture

Submitted by Bradymom on Mon, 01/20/2014 - 10:49am

So. I blogged about my mother-in-law having a picture in her house of bio mom & DH when they were married. A big family photo. (Divorced 6 years) We've been married 3. I NEVER saw this picture before. But she is a hoarder so who can be SURE right? Well I was 98% sure. 2% I've been wrong on that slim before. Well. The stepkids came. Said over break bio mom went to grandma's & they were to keep it a secret. (I know. I know. Fucked up... We have dealt with that)

ANYWAYS this picture. It has been driving me nuts. Well. Because MIL is a hoarder I once took pics all over her house because it's just unbelievable & when you explain that to someone they really don't "get" it. The pics were actually for my sister who was saying I should agree to go there for a holiday &&& I was like you have NO IDEA. So anyways... Looked at the pictures... From a year ago. NO DAMN PICTURE!!!

DH confronted her on it. She claimed it's always been there. He told her it's disrespectful to our marriage & confusing to the kids because their family has been redefined & asked her to put it away in an album or storage envelope. She says NO it's her house. Yadda yadda. So he tells her we have a picture from a year previous, the picture wasn't there.

So the story changed. She hung the picture to make bio mom, ex of 6 years, she's remarried, DH remarried feel like THEY STILL LOVE HER & want her to feel comfortable. They've had ZERO contact with her since 2008.

I really don't know what to say to that. MIL says she likes me, says I'm the best thing that has happened to her son, etc but then does this type of shit CONSTANTLY!!!!

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sonja's picture

Submitted by sonja on Mon, 01/20/2014 - 10:53am

This is disgusting. If I ever had to deal with this, MIL can kiss her self goodbye, I would stop coming over and she would stop seeing our son.

overworkedmom's picture

Submitted by overworkedmom on Mon, 01/20/2014 - 10:55am

I wrote my own parents off until they made big changes in their home. I may not have the "right" to tell them what to do but I do have the "right" to decide if I am going to be a part of it. Until it changed they didn't see my kids or me.

Jsmom's picture

Submitted by Jsmom on Mon, 01/20/2014 - 11:09am

Stuff like this is why MIL is no longer welcome in our home...She sided with BM on the crap she did with SD. Done and done...Cut her out of your life. She is playing games.

Bradymom's picture

Submitted by Bradymom on Tue, 01/21/2014 - 12:20pm

I went to a holiday there. The ham she served was 1997. 1997. My sister was asking is it really "that" bad, trying to be empathetic. The family at the time was discussing asking Hoarders, the tv show to help, they had discussed taking pics. Yeah I took pics. We sat as a family to show her what her house REALLY looks like. (Suggested by therapists who specialize in hoarding) Big f'n deal. I never showed pics to sister, as she wasn't part of this meeting. But yes, the family saw them at this meeting. They're on an old phone. With the question of THIS PICTURE, I dawned on me, that there's these pics.

Bradymom's picture

Submitted by Bradymom on Tue, 01/21/2014 - 12:27pm

Stepdown, have you had any experience with a hoarder? A real hoarder? I think if you had it would make sense to you. This isn't a little clutter, or a bad week or month of the lazies. Trailers on property stuffed & boarded, a crap load of cats, buckets of dirt around the house, you know cause they could contain gold, gold baring dirt... yeah, showers that are used for storage, 5 gallon buckets in bathroom bc the toilet is broken & she won't have a repair person see her house, the list goes on.

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Submitted by FTMandSM on Mon, 01/20/2014 - 12:51pm

Thank god my SO's parents hate the crazy BM just as much as I do...they can see straight through her fakeness....