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Bradymom's picture

Three weeks in a row I have ditched DH & skids on the midweek visit. Why? Because I can't stomach the smell of them. Seriously. Since my stroke I'm sensitive to smell.

Okay it's not just that. They bicker constantly & I usually steer the family activities & I haven't had the energy to. Also I have only made a few meals & I'm not eating much myself & I'm just really not into their lies & shit.

No crap. This is an interaction.

SD9: "What did you do today, bradymom?"
Me: "Your dad & I went to see niece at college & had lunch with her." (2 hours away)
SD: "My mom & I have lunch with her every Friday."
SS12: "No we don't! That's a lie!"
SD: "We keep it a secret! We do!"

(I walk out of room)

Me: "Hey DH, I'm going swimming."
DH: "Alone?"
Me: "Yeah."
SD & SS: "We wanna go!!!"
Me: "See ya this weekend! Bye! Love you guys!"
(Walk out. Shut door)

Just done with lies. Just done with bullshit. Done with the game. I have no energy for the conversation. The dialog. The lying is wrong. Yada yada. They're old enough. We've been doing this far too long. Nope. Wanna go swimming. Bye. Love ya.

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oneoffour's picture

OK, so you have had a debilitating accident and your world and how you function in it is changed for the forseeable future. Has anyone sat down with your DH and laid it out for him? You cannot tolerate loud noises and screeching. You cannot deal with lots of people around you.

These kids should be taking care either OF you or being aware how NOT to behave around you. When my father suffered from gall bladder attacks we knew NOT to slam doors or run through the house and be noisy. We did as we were told. Your DH needs someone to slap him into reality. You need all the support you can get. How about I send over my Grand daughter who is 7. She will make sure you are taken care of. She helped take care of her mother when she had 4 surgeries in 8 months (elbow, shoulder, appendix and then gall bladder..I am not kidding!)