I copied my bio over
I'm married (13 years) to a loving caring husband who stepped up to the Father plate replacing stepdad to being a true dad to my adult daughter. A father my daughter never had in her life. I could not asked more in a man as he is. I'm grateful to being married to him, though at times been rough, but we don't give up on each other easily. We lived through, which was the worst strain in our marriage, 2.5 years of my daughter being an addict to opiates. She lost her daughter, her home, car, and in the end we had to cut off any communication with her letting her choose to stop. My husband was my rock and foundation. At the same time, her addiction and losing to see our granddaughter in our lives took parts of me away. I lost interest in hobbies and activities. I had to learn new coping skills and a new restored faith in God. The date she called stating she was off opiates was May 2012. Well drug free. 5 months later, her choice to drink alcohol took over. Aug 2012, she rolled my parents car. We got that call from my parents. she and her passenger were being Life Flighted to hospital. That was her changing point to overcome all addictions. In a week afterwards, she was in out patient rehab ready to be a parent again and fight to have her daughter with her. My daughter's, now deceased ex fiance and his parents, had custody of our granddaughter during our daughters drugging days. Today she has sole custody of her daughter. In the last 3 years, I'm slowly regaining new interests becoming more involved with my husbands blacksmith creating new ideas with glass to add to his metal work.
I have insecurities of myself which creates anxiety, in certain situations, when comes to being ACCEPTED by others. Especially with my husband's family. When we were married, his parents and sister family were all great, wonderful, caring, nice Christian faithful in-laws towards me. My daughter, not fully accepted by them. That hurts and bites as years went on and soon the dynamics of the relationship changed with the in-laws towards me. My MIL has photos on her wall of our wedding, her daughter's wedding, then EVERYONE of her 6 grandchildren from her daughter's side, along with her 2nd husband's adult children with their children (MIL 1st husband passaway years prior to her 2nd marriage). She has another wall of all of the grandchildrens graduation photos. My hubby, 5 years ago said to me that his mom requested picture of our daughter and granddaughter to put up on her wall. I was excited to hear this. I had taken several nice picture, printed them out, and hubby took them to his mom. To my dismay, a month later when I was in her living room, none of them were hung up. To this day, not one photo is hung of them. I mentioned to my husband how much this hurt me couple years ago. He mentioned to his mom of the missing photos he brought her. Nothing happened. I quit asking about them from her or my hubby and why. I sent Christmas family photo cards to her which for one month was on her fridge. My SIL gives me silent treatment. On Facebook, neither of my in-laws will make comments of my grandchildren. My MIL will of her other step-daughter and family. MIL will buy the step-daughter children gifts but not for my daughter or grandchildren. It's not about the gift or money. It's more personal and deep hurtful nonverbal approach MIL shows her negative attitude towards my family. I don't get it, or should I?
I have attended with my MIL family at her church for social events and listen to speakers. I listened to the conversations between my in-laws and the pastors wife. Interesting to hear how they can poke jokes I feel rude towards others attending. Like, clothing another church member wore that didn't match. Or a homeless veteran the church brought in to help him regain veterans services in return he mowed lawn and maintenance at the church. After the veteran restored benefits. When he didn't return to church for weeks, the pastors wife went visiting him upset he never returned to church after they helped him. My MIL right in the middle as well.
I'm mostly venting. It's difficult not to stay away from in-laws when your husband is very loyal to his mom and he had also done a lot for my parents when they were in need of help.
Thanks for listening to my long rambling have a great day