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BM gave up on her children and thinks she can come back whenever she pleases

BMnotallowed's picture

I haven't posted in a while because we have been going through a lot of changes in my family unit. BM drove off after an altercation during a pick-up involving her aggressively yanking her daughter's arm leaving a mark. We then found marks on my older SD's back at first she said the dog had scratched her. She later admitted it came from BM giving her a spanking for getting a bad mark from her teacher. We took both of the girls to get examined by a doctor and called C.P.S on BM. They talked to the girls and to DH and I and they went and talked to BM. They said they have a file and that was that I'm not sure what else they plan on doing.

After not hearing from BM for 4 days she stopped by wanting to see the girls to kiss them and tell them she was leaving for a while. DH told her to leave but the girls saw her at the window so DH let them hug her while he stood and watched. She told DH she was checking herself into a facility to get help because she is dealing with emotional issues. DH got emergency custody but I can't delve to deep into our legal situation. But he has custody of the girls.

we know BM has not been in any facility because she post daily pictures and post on her Facebook and Instigram out and about drinking and doing various things. DH has printed out several things for record. DH sent her a message asking her what is going her with her. She responded with.

" I am living my life. I'm tired of always worrying about you and your marriage. Its time for me to move on and live my life. You think you can just pay child support and be a weekend dad. Well everyday your off frolicking with your wife I'm home with 2 kids depressed and stressed. I'm tired of all of it. I throw in the towel. I love my kids and I'm the best mom I can be. But I need time ti find myself and live my life when I'm ready I will come back. Its about time for me to date and get out and live my life. If you don't agree than fuck you. I really don't give a flying fuck. My kids know I love them and will be back for them. You guys enjoy playing family while you can. And if you respond with some stupid shit I won't write back. Goodbye"

DH messaged her back and told her he is saving her messages and if she thinks she can come back whenever she wants and get the girls she is mistaken.

She called 5 times and we ignored her calls so she left this voicemail.

" Yeah we will see what the judge says. Your not keeping my kids. I'm getting my fucking life together and doing me. I'm a good mom and everyone who knows me knows that. You and your wife can fuck yourself's or each other I don't give a fuck. I will come back for my kids when I'm good and damn ready. The judge will see I'm the best mom there was and I did the right thing. So poo poo you. You dumbass. Tell the girls I love them. Save my messages and you can keep this voicemail. I really don't give a fuck it just shows how much I care about my kids. Please don't try to contact me and I won't contact you. Goodbye."

I've just been trying to be supportive and loving to the girls and my husband. I just want a steady breeze to blow and for things to work out for the best. The girls are in a safe loving environment and that is what matters.

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Ssamantha's picture

She sounds like our BM. She moved away back in 2007 "to get herself together" and then moved back when she had to start paying child support. Then she moved again to once again "get herself together". It's a bunch of crap. No one on planet Earth believes that abandoning your children to date and "live your life" means you're a great mom. She is delusional. And the kids will notice who is there for them and who's not. My skids did and now BM has more of a relationship with her dog than her own kids.

RainbowsAndDaisies's picture

Just keep documenting everything and make sure you have a good lawyer. Our bm dropped ss8, then 2, off at our house one day - she had taken him from dh six months before and refused to return him. because there was no court order she got away with it. she said she couldn't do it any more because "its hard "and her bf broke up with her. We have had custody ever since. She is not involved in any way shape or form but shows up 0-10 times a year and spends a few hours with ss. Occasionally she makes noises about taking us to court for custody and just generally is a delusional banshee. Ignore ignore ignore.

oneoffour's picture

I hope you have filed for emergency full custody.

People with such venom for their exes should be cast adrift for as long as it takes them to get over themselves.