My H and I have been married 20 plus years and from the get go my SD did not like me or my two beauitful daughters. I knew it was going to be hard to blend our families for the start. I mostly raised my my child by my self with help from my mom & dad and their dads mom & dad. I work a full time job plus a part time job because their dad would not pay court ordered child support. They were raised to some respect, be honest, caring, sharing, and loving. My step daughter on the other hand was raised to be self centered, rude, so no respect, money hunger and want I want I get. This was done mostly because of her mother who is the same way. Anyway after all this time, I have been caring, and tried to show her that I do love her, but to no end has it worked. She has called me & my daughters everything in the book, disrespected me, talked about the three of us like we are trash. The ex helps feed the fire! My learned from a close friend of my SD that while she was in high school she had a aboration due to the fact the baby didn't belong to her boyfriend. I never told my husband about this cause I knew it would crash him.
Fast forward she got married moved 300 miles away has a beautiful daughter that she really doesn't want me to have anthing to do with. She has a good job at a bank which she thinks give her the right to check our everyone she knows credit without them knowing it. Needless to say thats is what she did to me and my husband. We help take care of my father-in law since my mother -in- law assed away. I make out his checks to pay his bill and he signs them. Thats as far as it goes with me having anthing to do with his bank account. A few months ago he was going to pay one of his bills and I ask him if wiuld take our bill with him and pay it also. I gave him the cash to it with. Well he paid it but with one of his checks because he need the cash and didn't want to go to his bank to get it. Well my SD has excess to his bank account and hwen she seen where the check was written to pay our bill she call my husband and tells him that I am writting check on his dad's account. I explained to my husband what happened , but SD didn't let it go. SHe check every utility account, credit card account, and even ran a background check on me. Well I have Lifelockand when she started all of this I received a call from them about it. She even went as far as to try and open a cell phone account up for her mother. Lifelock stop that. While I was talking to LL I ask if they could trace who or where the computer that was being used to excess our information was at. They did,and you got it it was my SD bank computer and her home computer. I told all of his to my husband and ask him if he had given her permission to do this. I told me that he hadn't give anyone permission to check anything. Then on top of all this I found out that his exhas been calling him on his cell at work for months. I dont't talk to my ex but maybe twice a year. I ask him why she was calling him and about what; he said half the time he doesn't answer the phone becuase his job doesn't allow personal call. She has no reason to call him, unless it about their daughter and the daughter is an adult so she really has no reason to call at all. I'm at a point do I throw away 20 plus years of marriage and hard work, because my husband will not say anything to his daughter or his ex. I'm just so tried of all the BS.