advice is needed
My husband has two daughters he raised, the mother was not in the picture until we go engaged when the two girls were in high school. My three sons were raised by me and were in college when we got engaged,and we have good relationships with their stepmother and father.
The problem is when we go married the two princess daughters were living with their mother and not speaking to their father. Completely estranged for ten years. The youngest only contacted their father for college money and he enabled her to not work during college. She was on medication during college for manic depression and partied excessively. The oldest daughter has had multiple abortions and lived with many different men. The main cause of the stepdaughters not speaking to their dad changed when he got married. Of course when he was the single parent he allowed the girls demand money for shopping and realy treated them as trophy girlfriends? He would allow them to dress provocative and think it was okay. There was nothing incestuous about the relationship, it was just the way he parented.
We have been through blended family sessions at our church. The problem is now the youngest daughter is trying to establish a relationship with her father again. My husband is secretive and didn't even tell me he had contacted his daughter for three weeks.
I am worried we are not going to get through this rough patch in our marriage.