Do any of you know about temporary spousal support?
I've been told that with a marriage as short as mine, I wouldn't be able to get any.
Before we married, I was earning about $20,000/yr. It was a mutual decision for me to quit my job-H had me convinced it was for the good of the relationship, as he works out of state, and didn't want me to be at work when he comes home.
You all know I've been trying so hard to find work...praying I'll get a response on the applications I just sent off. In the meantime, tho, without some form of support, all is lost. H earns just under $100,000/yr. He pays only $250.00/mo child support (yeah, I know that's wrong. He told the ex if she tried to get more he'd just quit his job, because she paid nothing the 12 yrs he raised the girls. If I were her, I'd take him to court. But that's between them).
There's actually an attorney with some teeth in a nearby town. I tried to contact him, but his office is closed for the holidays.
So, do any of you have experience with a short term (not a year yet) marriage, no kids, and temporary spousal support?
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The chances of you getting aren't very good because of the short marriage. Some women do get alimony or spousal support but they were married a long time and they had kds with the spouse. sorry.
you won't..
You won't get any spousal support.
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
I was married for just under 3 yrs
And while I did not get any support, I did get a temporary continuance of my health insurance on my Exs plan. It was one year, or until I found work, whichever came first. We had a mutual divorce however, and drew up our separation agreement with a mediator (to avoid legal fees) so basically I just asked for it, and ex agreed, it wasn't something I was awarded. Maybe you could get something like this, given the difficulty of the economic times, and your efforts to get work, plus if you have any proof he wanted you to quit your job when you married, that would be helpful.
Good luck!!!!
Oh and from what I understand, it may serve you to talk to as many lawyers as possible. I guess once they speak to you, even if you don't have them on retainer, they cannot take your husband as a client. In a small town, that would make things more difficult for him to throw his money around and get some hot shot lawyer who's going to run you into the ground....
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
I doubt it and even if there were
The comments and way he has treated the ex in the situation you wrote above, tells me you are better jumping and running with whatever you can carry. I am very worried about you, and his ever increasing erratic behavior. My suggestion is to talk to a person at your local domestic violence project, as well as local public mental health organization. These are free/cheap help for you and every county should have both of these, even if it's in another nearby town. If you tell them of your H's threatening actions, phone harassing you etc, and that you are afraid of him snapping and possibly hurting you, they will help you find all the resources you need to leave.
I think your son said it all when he told you he couldn't live in fear with that man anymore. You need to get out now. Also, are do you have family who will help you? I wish I was closer, I would help you any way I could to get out of there now. You need to go. Leave what you can live without.
Good luck
girl. I got "maintenance" when I left my 1st husband, but that was only b/c he made a TON of money AND he pissed off the judge more than once AND he was abusive and I could prove it. Personally, I would just walk away...the cleaner the better!
That sucks.
I would have thought you could. Just call an attorney and find out for yourself, you never know until you ask.
I'll keep my fingers crossed. Of course if you do he may just quit his job. Loser.