New Here! BM drama, per the usual
I’ve been putting off posting here for about a year now, but I think I need some support. I have a kickass therapist and a great friend group, but I know no other step parents closely. My father was one to my two siblings but we’re not close anymore.
My partner and I live together with his son, all school year round. We have most of the time with him. I am a mother figure to him, but his mothers is very much in the picture. To keep this concise I’ll call him my SS. SS goes to his moms across the country every summer; that’s her time. She also flies in once a month and visits. She takes him out of our home for a week and they stay at her friends house. I HATE IT. but it’s not my choice. She also calls twice a week, scheduled, per the parenting agreement. It’s always during dinner time, and lasts hours. I HATE IT. But it’s not my choice.
As of late she’s been causing a lot of drama and threatening court. SS came home with ONE bad spelling test score (he’s in 3rd grade) and she now feels she needs to tutor him and call him every single day to help him study spelling, during dinner time. The parenting agreement does not allow for this, but she keeps saying it does and wants to go to court about it. Meanwhile SS is doing great in school and doesn’t need the extra tutoring (and my partner and I already help him as it is). When my partner says no to BM, she finds a way to retaliate, such as not take SS to his dance classes or reschedules my partners schedule FaceTime call at a time when my partner is at work and can’t pick up the call. It’s gotten to the point where her emails are so manipulative and overwhelming. I feel she’s overcompensating because she doesn’t feel in control, but it’s not my problem she moved across the country! SS needs uninterrupted time with us in his own home and he surely needs to be eating dinner at normal times, with his family, not on FaceTime for hours being drilled on spelling homework!
I’m so tired and my partner is so tired. If she takes him to court over a spelling test, I’m going to lose my shit.