Is this drastic enough to break up over?
I’m really struggling on many fronts and need some sound advice. So sooooo glad I found this forum.
I have a 7yo SD whose BM is a psychotic hypocrite litigious... she’s literally everything you don’t want in a BM.
SD is extremely spoiled and because of this, is extremely overweight. My partner and I have literally received court notices about her “1200 calorie nutrition plan” SD is supposed to be following, so if we give her a slice of pizza or a lollipop it’s a gigantic issue. However we receive regular reports from SD that she frequently eats pizza, Chinese food, and ice cream sundaes for dinner at BM’s house. Which, whatever. Her insanity and over indulgences are only hurting her own kid who is morbidly obese and has blood pressure problems. I do feel bad because that’s not the kid’s choice.
What I can’t deal with it the constant coddling over her shitty behavior. She will literally get a tiny microscopic scrape and “can’t walk” the entire day, and we need to go buy bandaids, and she requires 5,000 medications for every little thing (Dramamine, allergy pills, you name it we need to have it on hand or the kid freaks out, despite the fact that she’s getting carsick because she never gets off her iPad).
If we take her ANYWHERE (to the mall, to the park) she will “have to go to the bathroom” 8 or 9 times an hour. She’s not going, she’s just doing it so her dad will take her.
He doesn’t ever tell her no. There’s no discipline. There’s not even a real relationship. He just tells her how cute she is for 9 hours one day a week while she whines for food and we can drop her off.
Am I just heartless? I’ve tried everything but I can’t stand this anymore. I have children of my own, I know kids are tough. But the final straw came yesterday when she wouldn’t share her toys with my little one. I said “Honey in our house we need to share with each other.” She had a total meltdown and made us call her mother who said “She doesn’t have to share if she doesn’t want to.” I am just feeling so done with this situation.