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Submitted by annmars12 on Thu, 11/07/2019 - 2:07am

So last night the BM called and told my husband that they were in a car accident then said she would call back. Not know what happened about 3 hours later I messaged my SD and she said they were not in the car. Why did she even call? Then my husband comes home this evening and was very short tempered with me. I ask him what was going on and he said BM called him and my SD's wanted to come back with us after Cheer Saturday.  But he said he wanted to ask me first because I have been sick the last few day with the flu. I told him it is whatever he wanted to do. Also BM is court order to pay back money we paid a bill on she was to pay in the divorce decree. Instead of sending it to the lawyer she wants to pay husband at the cheer comp Saturday. He said je told her no. Sometimes I do not believe him, I really think this is BM way of being around us on Saturday,  which I refuse to do. And I have made my choice very clear. I think he is mad at me.. Or am I just over reacting? She always makes it about her. I feel like there is nothing I can say to chance this toxic relationship between us. Is it spilling over into my husband and he blaming me for all the things he says he doesn't want to do because of his feeling for BM? That's what she said to him when he told her he was going to ask.me first?  I'm just over this. I'm tired. 

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tankh21's picture

Submitted by tankh21 on Thu, 11/07/2019 - 7:03am

Why can't the idiot mail the payment for the bill to your DH? It really sounds like a ploy to cause drama between you and your DH! Have you talked to your DH and asked if he is mad at you?

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Submitted by annmars12 on Thu, 11/07/2019 - 9:55am

Yes I talked with him, he says hes just worried and that it is hard for him to be in the middle. I agreea but told him instead of being up set with me, he needs to get her in check and be mad at her. I'm not the one causing the problem.  

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Submitted by 2nd wives club on Thu, 11/07/2019 - 9:31am

No you're not overreacting. He's lucky he's still in your good graces after the drunken call to BM on his birthday.

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Submitted by annmars12 on Thu, 11/07/2019 - 9:58am

Thank you. There are times I wonder why I have given this relationship so many chances and it all boils down to love, if it was.not for her we would be a great couple. We only argue about BM and BD being the way they are. 

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Submitted by Harry on Thu, 11/07/2019 - 10:27am

He should not be playing nice to BM, getting himself in the middle.  He divorced her, should have nothing to do with her.  Only about there kids.  That should not get him in the middle.  There mail , this can be sent, he does not have yo hang with BM all day.

He wants to hang with BM, or he would not.  Better nip this now.

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Fri, 11/08/2019 - 8:07am

he says hes just worried and that it is hard for him to be in the middle.

I will never understand how a man that you're married to is more worried about upsetting the X than he is of his wife?? It truly boggles my mind. They are not together anymore so why is he "worried". If this is the case he should have stayed with her so he can continue to jump whenever she makes her demands. I'd be d@mned if my H is worried about upsetting another women that isn't me.