OT - Leopards DO change their spots
For years, I have secretly called my brothers' wives my "bitchsters-in-law". They have always been condescending and snotty. I gave up on having any kind of decent relationship with them years ago and settled for me being polite, but impersonal (the "how I treat crappy coworkers" treatment).
My oldest brother and his wife moved to Florida about a year ago. Apparently, his wife has been doing a lot of soul searching. The times they've come back here, I've overheard her admit to making mistakes with their children. Both of them were especially hard on their son and they've worked to make amends with him (and his wife). The last trip, she confessed her belief that her daughter's failure at finding a job after college was her fault.
This trip, they came home to celebrate my Dad's birthday. She announced in front of the entire family... "Aniki, I owe you a HUGE apology. I've treated you unfairly for many years. Hell, I've treated you like SHIT. I don't know if I can ever make things right or if you will forgive me, but I'm extremely sorry for my sh!tty behavior and how badly I've treated you all these years. I hope we can at least try to be friends."
Several times, she took time to speak to me about a variety of things and we actually had a good time. Amazeballs! If she keeps up with the soul-searching and changing, I'm going to end up liking her. Whoda thunk?
ETA: All these years, she has been nice and polite to my Dad, but never called him Dad or Mr. or FirstName. Last night, she called him 'Dad'. Multiple times throughout the evening. *shok*