Possibly an Unusual Step Parenting Situation
My situation may not be very typical and sometimes it concerns me. My husband has primary custody so my 13 year old step son lives with us primarily. He goes to see his mother on the weekends, but of course both sides are flexible. I have been married for 3 1/2 years and get along withmy husband's ex very well (they have been divorced for like 12 years and she is married and has 2 other kids).
My role with my step son is just as active as his father. I love and treat him as if he is my own. My husband works a lot so I am the "mommy figure" for him the majority of the time. I pack his lunches, take him to Basketball practice, pick him up from practice, make sure he does his chores, deal with his grades and homework, go to parent teacher conferences, and so on. He respects and loves me very much and truly values my opinions. It really upsets him if he dissappoints me or if I get after him for something.
I love my role and I love my relationship with my step son but it does concern me a bit. I wonder if this is healthy for him. I wonder if it is healthy for him to see me in this role, but not his own mother. I find it very sad that his mother isn't actively involved in his life. I feel like he should have his biological mother just as involved. I mean he had his first game of the basketball season and his mother couldn't go and he didin't even seem to care. He was just happy that his father and I were there.
I guess I am just wondering if anyone has a similar situation to me. Will this affect him in any way as he continues to get older? Am I doing the right thing by being such an active part of his life?